Chrysalis Bahunia Tomentosa

It's been a long time

2009-03-25T23:26:00.003+08:00

Hi.. It's been more than a year since my last post.

Hehe I guess when you're busy you won't bother to write, because you have tons of things to do.

I need to re-organize my life and make it more simple, fun, and happy I guess. Problems, Challenges, Issues, whatsoever will not stop coming in until the day that your heart stop beating.

The big question is How to organize a very messy life?

I also got this question when cleaning my room after several times. It takes more effort, more will power to do that.

Argh.. I feel like screaming >,<"

Sorry, I should post a proper posting.. however too many things moving around inside my head like the skull is the playground for that >,<"

Found the missing Aneka

2008-08-19T22:04:00.002+08:00

I'm not sure when exactly Aneka, the formerly famous Indonesian cuisine food shifted from S11 to Bugis area. However I found that Aneka had open a new branch in Koufu Toa Payoh.

Hehehe kinda miss the old Ayam klaten taste.. Its been a while since my last visit to Aneka. According to the owner, S11 had been shut down due to they build some Indian restaurant.

Well, I couldn't find any weird cuisine yesterday.
They still had the regular menu plus several variations.

Below are the menus that I can remember:
- Ayam Bakar Klaten
- Ayam Goreng Klaten (believe me this is good)
- Ayam Bakar Rica (Desson's fave)
- Ayam Penyet
- Udang Bakar
- Ikan Bakar

Aneka had something special in terms of food business creativity =)
They often to create a new menu in a special day. i.e. Hari Raya special menu. Kupat Tahu Surabaya. Hehehe too bad.. its too damn spicy.. tounge can't take it any longer...

So, if you're keen to try.. visit them in Toa Payoh Koufu, just above the Toa Payoh MRT station:)

My Very Own Foo Yoong Egg

2007-09-16T13:34:00.000+08:00

Whoa.. it's been so long since my last post..
Ok.. lets get going...
I will tell you a bit about my 1st cooking experience.

Not like I'm a good chef nor like to cook foods, but last few weeks ago I was eagerly want to eat one of my favourite food which is Foo Yoong Egg and I don't know where to find it in Singapore. What to do, I'm a bachelor and nobody will cook for me T__T. Ok, so I've decided to learn how to cook it from my friend, and try to experiment a little bit. Hehe, wise man said that "When there is a will there will be a way." So, allow me to share the cooking experience with you all.

What is Foo Yoong Egg? Basically its only an egg, much like an omelet, but it has special sauce on it. Some people prefer to put lots of chili on the sauce, and some prefer to put only tomato on the sauce.

Its not a complex food to make, but for me its already require lots of effort to make it, because I never cook before.

According to my friend, the recipe consists of 2 parts, which are the egg and the sauce. The egg is mixed with some ingredients, more or less like an omelet. My version of the egg ingredients is egg, onion, abbage, garlic, pork meat, and carrot.

I started to mix 3 eggs in a bowl, and put diced onion and garlic. As soon as they mixed, I cooked the meat pork, and put the meat to the egg after it turned white (pork meat turns to white when its done right?) After its done, I cut the cabbage, and the carrot, to very small pieces (this part took me for 40 minutes to able to cut them into small pieces >,<"), and put them into the egg. Mixed them really well and put some salt, and pepper in it. Ok, the egg is ready; let's cook them in the pan. Whoaa.. it was not easy to cook the egg, especially to cook the top side of the egg. Who will ever thought that lifting the egg, and making it upside down is a hard thing to do >,<>,<

Total cooking time: 1 hour of beginner like me >,<
Result: 1 plate of Foo Yoong Egg, and a burnt hand.

Perhaps you may want to try it by yourself.. Off course without the burnt hand part ^__^

Found SW (Singapore Warteg)

2007-07-13T18:15:00.002+08:00

Finally, after one and half year, I finally found a food centre that sell food like "Warteg".

For those who doesn't know what is "Warteg", "Warteg" is like a cheap food place, that sell a very common Indonesian food, like soup, oyster, "tempe", bean curd. The price also very cheap.

"Warteg" also very popular to reach most people that have tight budget in Indonesia.

You'll easily find these kind of place in Indonesia.. Some of it will suffix with some other fancy name like, "Bahari" or "Sejahtera" or sometimes "Suka Maju".

So you'll find the name quite unique and uneasy to say :D
here are some examples:
"Warteg Bahari"
"Warteg Sejahtera"
"Warteg Suka Maju"

So, is it has the same name in Singapore?
Nope.. definitely no...

Actually its transform from a "Padang" restaurant.
They called their restaurant with "Sambel Balado" Food.

Well the name making me come to them to check what kind of food that they sell.
Astonished....
Thats my reaction...
I saw oyster.. "Sambal Hati", and some other "Warteg" food inside..

wow..
ok.. they can able to make the same food, but how about the taste?
Is it the same?

Too bad... although it has the same color, same form.. same look and feel.. but it didn't taste the same..

My tounge will not lie to me..
The taste was ok.. even though not exactly the same like real "warteg" food.

at least its better than have to go to Jakarta to eat "warteg" food.

hehehe

Ok, now the location.

Toa Payoh Mall,
near Toa Payoh MRT

for more detail... feel free to ask me directly ^^

Special Post for Ah Ma

2007-04-11T20:33:00.000+08:00

"Joseph, do you already drink your milk?"
"Haven't Ah Ma, I don't have milk in the house. Mommy recently never bought milk again for me."
"Here, take this money, and go buy some milk from the nearest market. Please do careful when you cross the street"

"I bought a present for you... This one is a little puppy. This little puppy come far a way from Australia. You can play with it and have fun"
"Thanks Ah Ma ^___^"

Not much sweet memory to remember from my Ah Ma, because I live with my mom and dad, and only visit my Ah Ma and Ah Gong occasionally.
Less but sure more than enough..

People said that once you have been good to other people, you'll be remembered for life.
I think that was exactly why I'm experiencing now.

Ah Ma, a strong woman, yet very powerful, she managed to distribute the happiness quite well. To all her child, even though not all born from her womb.

Ah Ma, a strong woman that can bear her life challenge which isn't easy. Born in China, and migrated with my Ah Gong to Indonesia, and My Ah Gong build everything from scratch in that foreign country.

Perhaps my Ah Gong and Ah Ma followed the Chinese wise word, "More children means Big Wealth in your family".

I think the one that I call success is not that you can have big family like those specified in the Chinese wise word, but you managed to have big family without making them separated, still gathered as one family. Even several of your son is no longer in that foreign country, and migrated to Australia, and one of your child is staying at Germany. The big thing is you and Ah Gong manage to create that opportunity for your child. I'm proud of you two.

Ah Ma....
Even though you no longer can see me anymore
Even though you no longer can hear me
Even though you no longer can give wise word anymore

You will always be remembered

Ah Ma...
Even though the Doctor claims that you can only survive within days..
I think they miss judge you...
They never know that He have special plans for you after these days..

I'm sure now you'll be happier..
Free from all burdens
End of all problems
Because God already take you home

I still remembered last kiss that I give to you on my last visit.
I won't forget that kiss.

Zai Jian Ah Ma
I won't say I love you now,
Not because I don't love you
But it's to late to say it now,
I know that you knew
Even though I didn't say it on my last visit

I won't say I miss you now,
Not because I don't miss you
But it's to late to say it now

I won't say Thank You Ah Ma now,
Not because I'm ungrateful
But it's to late to say it now

But....
if only I could post this message to you now
Through the Heaven's Post Center
I will definitely would say I love you, I miss you, and Thank You Ah Ma

(In Memoriam of my Ah Ma, 11 Apr 2006 4:25 GMT+8)

DVD Part 2

2007-04-07T18:58:00.000+08:00

2 Days after I cant burn the darn DVD-R 16x Disc, I purchase 1 DVD+R Imation 16x to test whether my DVD drive able to burn DVD or not.

After login to my laptop, I directly start my nero burning rom and test how nero able to recognize the new disc as empty DVD disc or not. Nero able to recognize it as empty DVD. Yayyy finally I'm able to burn ^____^ I load my previous project, and start to burn immediately. Darn... it only able to recognize it as empty disc, but when trying to burn the DVD, I always encounter the same issue, unable to continue process. Unknown command when executing DVD burning.

Now I completely blur, how can I burn a simple dvd, or the shop just play marketing game to me. Never give up... I just think that perhaps incompatible disc. Perhaps the imation disc is not suitable with my burner.

The week after I bought the DVD Drive, I went out to the same place, but not for complaining the DVD Drive. I went there with Riko because he want to try to repair his laptop.

After that, I decided to purchase 25 pieces of DVD+R. Learned from the old issue, I will only buy the +R disc, and because I want to reduce the chance of failure when burning, I purchase the branded disc that already known with its quality... At end I choose Verbatim DVD+R 16x. It's a good brand isn't it?

Reached to home, and yet tested whether my DVD drive able to burn the verbatim discs, I try to browse at the internet and try to find as many as possible regarding any information for my DVD drive, and 1 article recommend me to use nero info tools to see whats your DVD Drive able to write?

And it stated able to write DVD+R, DVD+RW, CD-R, CD-RW, and the speed for burning DVD only for 2.4x (Darn...) It's an old model indeed, not the new one. The other article told me that the DVD Drive only able to burn DVD 4x - 8x speed only, and cant burn the 16x one.

Oh nooo... what will I do with those 25 pieces of verbatim DVD+R 16x disc? I already purchased it.. and theres no way to give it back to the store and trade it with 8x disc.

Sigh... another good way to waste $ :D
So.... I made up my mind to test with 4x disc and 8x disc.. But, nowadays its quite hard to find the old disc that have 8x or 4x speed... all stores only sell the 16x DVD discs.

The hunting ends after I visited mustafa and find sets of DVD+R 8x disc and DVD+R 4x disc. Finally... after a long journey... I finally found the place that sold the old DVD disc^^. But still worrying whether its able to burn or not.

Finally its able to work.. so confirm my Drive is a DVD+RW drive that only able to burn old DVD+R discs and DVD+RW discs..

Here is the source URL that I used for learning the DVD formats

http://www.webopedia.com/DidYouKnow/Hardware_Software/2003/DVDFormatsExplained.asp

Below is the chunk of details that I extract from the site.

DVD+R and DVD+RW
DVD+R and DVD+RW formats are supported by Philips, Sony, Hewlett-Packard, Dell, Ricoh, Yamaha and others.

DVD+R is a recordable DVD format similar to CD-R. A DVD+R can record data only once and then the data becomes permanent on the disc. The disc can not be recorded onto a second time.

DVD+RW is a re-recordable format similar to CD-RW. The data on a DVD+RW disc can be erased and recorded over numerous times without damaging the medium.

DVDs created by a +R/+RW device can be read by most commercial DVD-ROM players.

Below is the chunk of information that I've extract that informed me that 16x Discs will not work on my DVD Drive.

Pros: Verbatim brand; price.

Cons: I cannot get these to burn with my Philips DVD+RW SDVD6004. Also, the retailer's "receipt" must be sent in with rebate form; when I called the rebate center to see what constituted as the receipt from newegg, I was told there was an unresolved "issue" with this particular rebate and my question "could not be answered".

Other Thoughts: My internal Philips SDVD6004 drive came as an option with my Inspiron 5100 laptop; I have been using it to successfully burn video and data DVDs for about a year now, but I cannot get it to burn these particular DVDs. They are the first Verbatims I have attempted to burn with this drive. I have spent a considerable amount of time researching this problem with little success. The best answer I've found so far is that my particular burner is old/problematic. I would avoid this product if you plan to burn with a Philips SDVD6004 drive, as I have not had this issue with other media.

DVD Part 1

2007-04-02T23:15:00.000+08:00

Actually I've thinking to buy a new External DVD Writer, so I can write a DVD between my old laptop and the newer one.

But finally the situations start differently....

It was started from when me, Johan, Desson, and Riko (read Bastard) play LAN games at my place.. we sort of computer since those 2 creatures (Desson and Riko), not willingly to bring their laptop...

Riko, even though that he live quite far, but his willingness to PLAY is really strong, so at end he always bring his laptop to my place.

But... Desson... the one that quite lazy to bring his old laptop (which very troublesome for playing DOTA :D), said... (translated version), "Chep, I think its better to you to reinstall your old laptop. It's really sux.. and slow". Felling pity for him, I've decided that I'll reinstall it...

OK.... not long from that the installation is started, and it was quite success, until... DVD Read error.. cannot find file "bla bla bla.."

and the installation is stopped... But.. never give up... I keep on trying... until 3am in the morning.. Installation finally completed.. (persistent is a special power isn't it :D)

What the hell???? I thought its over... yet... it turn out the other way around. The windows crash... able to boot, and load.. but... it stop at the password level.. Installation corrupted, please reinstall your windows... (ZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz)

So... it end at last 2 weeks.. Desson, Riko, and me went out to Simlim Square to try to find is there any way to repair the optic without have to replace the whole Drive.

We stop at the 4th storey and I asked the shop owner.. "Can you repair my DVD Combo Drive?". "Whats wrong with your DVD?", he replied. "The optic is not good anymore, it not able to read continuously, can you replace the optic with the new one?" "Sorry, we don't do that in here.." (Sigh...) It just doesn't like Glodok where you can replace anything inside your pc or laptop.

"OK........ How much for a new DVD Writer drive?" "$190" (OMG!!! so expensive).. Those two creatures went out leaving me alone in the shop.. they went to search a External HDD. So, I called them to check the DVD Writer external price, if the price were cheaper I'm thinking to bought a cheap CD ROM only, just to reinstall my old laptop.

"How much for a CD ROM Drive?" "$50" (OMG!! I think this shop is try to get highly benefit from its customers). So at the end we decided to find other shop and hoping will get a better value price.

Looking around 4th storey and cannot find a good shop to stop, we continue to 5th storey by stairs, and stopped a while by 3 lovely lady sitting and studying at the stairs... Everyone put their best "Cool" face and pass them over and talking in Bahasa.

Yayy.. 5th storey have 1 cheap store that sell internal DVD writer for $125 only.. "OK, can test 1st??" The shop owner directly put the new DVD into my old laptop.. the surgery is begin, while we're talking about external HDD.

"OK, can le" The shop owner said.. "OK, let me test", seems the reading process looks ok, so.. without further checking and asking, I asked, "Can pay by NETS?" "Sorry we don't" "OK.. where can I find the nearest ATM?" "Go down to the 1st storey, and you can find the ATM near the Lift." "OK, wait hor.."

We went down... but not taking the escalator to go down from 5th to 4th :D Why???
Still remembered the 3 lovely lady.. I think we all agreed in our heart to see them again (LOL)
They still sit there and studying seriously, without noticing that the 3 handsome man pass them again on purpose :D

Shorten the story... after successfully take the money and pay by cash, I decided to bought the DVD disc to back up my old laptop Data. So I bought 25 disc for $15, it's a good price after all..
What brand? TDK it's a good brand.. and the writing speed is able to reach 16x.. WOW ok lorh... seems problems solved..

So I went back home with smile on my face.. and tried to burn and back up my data immediately after that.

But something fishy happened. Darn... why the bloddy disc is not recognized?
Is the shop trick me?

2 hours of trying wasted... and yet no good result............
so.. I try to see whether the disc is the problem.. I borrow Johan's DVD burner, and the disc is stated as Empty DVD Disc.. and he also can burn with it..

Something wrong with my new DVD Drive?? hell yeah it is... but.. I keep thinking the other way around.. I think the disc is not compatible with my DVD drive..

So the browsing begins.. and 2 days after that I saw an important information about DVD type..

I thought DVD R is DVD R and DVD RW is DVD RW, which similar with CD R and CD RW... But I got it all wrong!!!

DVD is not standardized.. some brand have the + standard and some have the -, mean while there other technology like blueray and others..

The TDK disc that I bought is a DVD-R which is not compatible with my drive.. so.. I bought 25 DVD+R disc in the next day..

Will it work???

Miss Communication

2007-03-28T23:49:00.000+08:00

This noon, when I was thinking where should I have my lunch, I just follow my foot, walking pass through the Delifrance, step over the Ichiban Sushi...

blur.. confused... finally set up my mind to eat one of the chinese restaurant behind the Giordano shop.

1 nice lady greets me with chinese, "Ni yao chi ma lao ban?", I respectfully nod because I want to eat there.

Then.. the lady starting to talk again, "Ni yao chi shen me lao ban? ji fan, ya fan". Hm... I answered, "Wo yao ji fan". "She took note, and ask again, "........" (cannot understand at this point)

I put my innocent face, and look through her face... She keep on talking in chinese.. (ooo Gosh... don't she understand that I'm a new bie T__T)

Suddenly, she took out the menu.. and pointing to the herbal soup...

Let me guess she offer me another menu...

The marketing stuff start here, and the miss communication started.

She offered me the herbal soup, while I thought she doesn't have the Chicken Rice, so I choose fried rice, and choose the pig herbal soup.

Suddenly she said, "Ni bu yao ji fan ma?" errr... I've realized that the chicken rice is there, but it's already to late.

Sigh... I wish that My chinese is improving, so can understand what the lady want to say.

That lunch cost me $7, quite expensive for a single lunch :p

I indeed should continue my study, or it will get worst....

Sigh... so jealous with people that can speak chinese language, sounds so nice.. the tone, how they speak..

Sadly this matter happened more than once..

1 week ago, a lovely lady came to me, and ask me in chinese...

Darn.. I'm so blur... the last word that I remembered come out from her lips is "Ni ting bu dong ma?" (hahahaha dui bu qi ah xiao jie)

Lucky, not all the lady that come and ask me speak in chinese.. :D

There was a time when a lovely lady come and asked about where can she find Delifrance.. hehehe that one surely no problem, since I know the HDB Hub area (especially the eating place :p). So I gave the correct direction to her, and don't know whether she reach there or not.. So after finishing my cigars, I went to the same direction that I pointed to her. Grin... I found her standing and making order to delifrance. (good good, at least my direction is correct :p)

So...... when will we take the intermediate course?

Explode in New Year

2007-01-04T21:28:00.000+08:00

Happy New Year everybody!!!

Wishing you the good and prosperous New Year...

Bye bye 2006... you bring me lots of experience.. I'm very grateful that's you exist... within 2006 I learn lots of things.... like how to speak english infront of people, I mean people :D, learn how to get my own flat, learn how to take MRT, busses, also learn how to speak zhong wen.. (this one still sux).

What happened on New Year?

Well it's begin on 1 sms came... from my bastard friend in Jakarta. He's trying to find a new opportunities in Singapore too. Well good luck to you my bastard friend.

He came at 28 as expected... but the one that bring him to my place is sux.... I mean really sux... He only can remember how to reach Paya Lebar only T__T

Bastard Rix come wif a good souvenir... love ya MUACKZZZ ^^V Later don't forget to bring me again OK ^^. Beside of bastard Rix, there also Triana that came for holiday... Fuuh.. I never take a holiday to Singapore before... Don't have the money to spend a holiday to Singapore.. It's damage me to much!!

Not yet finished!! Still have WD that come to visit us in here.. He come along the way from Kuala Lumpur.. He also came with his new Toys a SLR Camera .. (that's what he said about it) Wow that camera is to cool... can take a very good quality picture... an object is no longer a usual object if taken by that camera..

Yeah... Yeah... but the price also super T__T extremely expensive... can afford 2 laptop I think..
Good toys come with good money :D

Peon Visit
The party is not over yet!!! Peon also came to visit^__^

Actually her visit to Singapore is not as expected..

But at least She gets something from here right?? STARBUCKS!!! hahahaha

I thought not seeing her for several months will make her taller and grow a bit :D yet... still she's still our 00-2 smallest gal ^__^

Look at the picture on the left.. it's more like a father take his child to play on the playing ground. :D

From left to right: Gunady, Dith, Peon, and Me at Sky Garden Suntec City.

This picture is taken on 31st Dec, just before the new year... After spending a lot of time in STARBUCKS, we go to explanade and wait for the fireworks in there.. According to Gunady the fireworks will be very awesome...

Hm... I was thinking of the fireworks that I've seen in Kota Bunga Puncak last year with Robert, Yulia, and Ivon.. That fireworks already wonderfull, cannot wait to see Singapore fireworks...

I thought that the place will not be so crowded... but then I'm wrong again... zzzzzzzzz
It's a human ocean.... walk here u meet people.. walk there also people... even they camp ... bring mattress to sit and umbrella to cover them.

The effort to see the fireworks is full with laugh, sharring and legg cramp :D
Yet still have time to a bit narsis :p

Waiting sure is boring... that's why I need to take a good break with smile and picture :p

Anyhow who will never expect that there will be three more faces behind me that want to share the narcist moment with me :p Laughed like hell... I vote this picture as best picture of the year:p

Well what is it like? I hope you can enjoy the fireworks like I do

1st X Mas in Singapore

2007-01-04T20:58:00.000+08:00

Xmas in Orchard... 1st Xmas in Singapore, to be honest... this xmas is full with light... quite wonderfull since I always like lights... I don't know why.. but I always find it wonderfull.

Last Xmas I went to Puncak n got a big jam in the car... This Xmas... super jam and not even in the car :D

Hahaha, don't know what to say!!! In XMas seems like all Singapore ppl + Tourist went to Orchard and exploring a Xmas in there.

The road were crowded like hell.. This picture on the left is taken on the middle of the Orchard Rd. While people crossing the road and the police were busy to securing the road. Can you see the hat that I'm wearing on?? That hat is really cheap ^^, S$10 for 3 hats, I share the hats with Johan my house mate. He's the one that take my picture, and the other way arround. Well Merry Xmas to you ^__^

The day after Xmas at home

Since Yenny had returned to our beloved house, chey... this look at our pose on the right... surely a happy housemate right :D Ya la... Why do we feel sorrow? Xmas only once in a year right? Although they're not celebrating Xmas, but at least they can wear santa's hat right ^^

Though celebrating xmas without my family, but atleast still have a good housemate to share the xmas spirit with ^__^V

Thanks Yen, Thanks Jo for sharing this Xmas with me.....

Well we don't need rudolf to deliver the xmas present right since we make Yenny as rudolf :p

1 thing that I found out, that in Singapore, xmas is about sharring, not like in Indonesia, xmas is more sounds like peace... have a peaceful xmas.. that's what I always remembered if talking about xmas in Indonesia.

In here we're celebrating xmas with joy, and giving gift to others.. The office xmas event also quite ok, though not participating in all the events, atleast can get PUNCH and free LUNCH :D hahahahaha

Anyway they perform very nice XMas Carrolling and quite talented in singing ^^

Merry Xmas to you all... have a pleasant Xmas

The Promise

2006-12-16T19:54:00.000+08:00

Hehehe... seems like a movie title right... hahaha actually it's not :p

I post this blog due to My friends b'day last week on "er ling ling liu shi er yue jiu hao".

Escpecially for Desson

Gratz for another 1 year advance to your life...

What to say ah??

Err... should I sing for you??? I don't think u want to listen though :p

How about if I say, I hope that u'll enjoy your time in here, get a healthy life... (err... classic captain.. classic...)

To be honest, First I was thinking that Desson is one of a unique creature that God created. God also give the creature the ability to make other people that live near by him to feel with joy, but to the people that are not live near by him is more luckier :p (that's what you say lorh... :p remember the Intimedia story :D)

Let me tell u a secret..... 1st time I know Desson, I'm thinking that this man is a bit strange... always covered with thick jacket, and play game quite often (star craft). He was also one of my bastard friend's friend. But, one thing for sure... this man can do hard work... since when I know him, he can do Overtime, even Overnight :D

While the time keep passing by, so roughly passed by, without able to be stopped, have you notice that we already known each other for about 5 years.

Even though now you're still smart, single, looking and available... I will hope that later if you change your status to either not smart, not single, not looking or invisible, you will still able to cherish all people near by you man.

God created you with talent... and one of it is to cheer others ^^

Thanks for cheering my life friend,

PS: what's ur plan for new year? Is it ok with you if we go to Redang Island?

Make Over

2006-12-16T19:28:00.000+08:00

Today, I went to Clarke Quay to do free make over, they did quite awesome job... I barely can recognize myself in the picture...

Several shots were taken, although not all shots were nice, but at least mostly the picture looks nice...

Usually I only see big eye bag under my eyes, since most of the time always lack of sleep.

I don't know what have they done with it, seems like no eye bag is visible in the picture, though pimples still there :p

Hm... As I recall I know that my niece have been doing this digital studio photo, but that time the photos were taken in Kelapa Gading Jakarta. The main skill is not in the make over (Very difficult to make over a baby right ^^). They only did digital photo editing.

As for this picture, this one not original me. I'm there with make over. Finally got chance to do such a thing. Perhaps later will do it again with my family in Jakarta.

There was 1 intresting story when I do the make over. While waiting for my turn, one lady is sit next to me, and she start a conversation with me, asking this, asking that... Suddenly... cannot hear her clearly (music is quite hard), She seems like speaking to ask my number, and perhaps later can go to take dinner together. (what?? Shocked...) but anyway I just give her the number.

Perhaps I must learn from what she has done.... to start a smooth conversation... (this is not easy for me... or it's just me that thinking it's not easy). Yeah... must bear with it man.... Do the talk and smile... like the old time.. Yeah... I miss the old time, when I'm quite easy to talk to stranger, and can start a smooth conversation....

What's make it so hard?? Perhaps self confidence... I'm still thinking that my English is not good enough... So quite affraid to start a conversation with stranger... especially those "hen piaoliang xiaojie" hahahaha..

Hahaha slacking.... not totally slacking, still if I compare with the first time I'm here, it's already improving alot, though a bit of mixed with Singlish. Anyway, it's ok I think, since the main point of a conversation is how is the message is taken clearly by the others.

The upcoming Christmas

2006-12-04T23:57:00.000+08:00

Epiloque: Lately the weather seems quite cold, no need to turn on the air con at the night (good what!! can save $). The lights outside seems nice, lots of decoration (I always like lights). Toa Payoh street decorated nicely. Most stores now already put the discount mark at their shop. Yet, the christmas song also started to heard slowly.

Seems this will be my 1st Christmas in Singapore. Still I felt something missing... whats that?? perhaps missing the white white one (lol, dont copy cat this line, purely singlish).

Perhaps starting to planning a Christmas holiday is a good options for now^^.

Christmas stay, but new year going overseas... (hey, this one not because I'm rich, but Singapore is to small for holiday :D)

Hm... let see?? if you're me, what will u think???

Malaysia, Bangkok?? or save more to go more further, like beijing for example...
Hehehe, in order to go to Beijing I think I still need to practice my zhong wen 1st.
But Beijing is surely one of the city that I want to visit, regardless to G explanation... hehehe must prepare to the bad toilet in there... Some doo here some doo there.. wahahaha even u can look to ur neighboor when u're doing doo :D

I think I still have the picture that my friend send me, about the doo and the toilet in there.
Yeah... I'm thinking to sharing it with you guys, but... wahahaha don't think u'll like it :p

***** blanking *****

I was thinking what I'm doing in the last pass Christmas:

2000: Christmas n New Year at Puncak with Kon Club Gang at Bagus's House (LA --> Not Los Angeles but Lenteng Agung)
2001: Christmas n New Year at Puncak with Ricky, Hadi, Deyna n the Gang
2002: Christmas n New Year at Puncak with Ricky, Hadi, Deyna n the Gang
2003: Christmas n New Year at Server Room (Doing Final Assignment, and playing WarCraft III [Maze Defense, Heroes], KOF in action ^^ 99 combo hits, Tak if u're reading this, I saw many good KOF player doing good combo in sg... zzzz I've no chance to hit him T__T)
2004: No holiday... Mrs. Widia passed away, so we all shooting her funeral.
2005: Christmas n New Year at Puncak with Robert, Yulia, and Ivone (hehehe seems like double date isn't it?) ^^
2006: Christmas in SG (Stuck in sg, because of the chinese course. Favorite line from the course is... Na ge xiao jie hen piao liang, duo sao qian? [modified by Desson])

Each year has different stories... some good... some fun... one sad...

So many things happened in my life.... writing this post is recalling me back those old memories..

Haha, better to start putting Christmas song to my winamp list now ^^.

MapleSea

2006-11-14T00:28:00.000+08:00

Weew... finally I've post something about it..

Yup... maple...
it's an online game... quite similar with ragnarok,
RPG game... actually if you only play it alone, it will be very boring to play it, but since when u playing the game, u'll be involve with a lot of new friends, and talk in english (which I hope will improve mine T__T), sometimes also in hua yu (which I'm still learning of it).

I never thought that I can play one online game until this long... hehehe from June till now..
Now my lvl is already 7x, and reach the highest job that available in there... although still a lot of maplers that have lvl higher than me.

Anyway... it's quite fun... and sometimes when u want to save... playing it will be the correct answer for saving, since whenever u playing it, u'll not go out, or walk arround with your friend, and spend unnecessary money to exp food or drinks, or perhaps exp sport.

I've notice that some of the players already takes maple as their life, they cann't live without it. [baka]

It shouldnot be like that... it supposed to be for fun only le..
I've met lots of ppl in there, some of them from Yordania --> Lou, lots from Malaysia--> Kat, Happy, Ivy, Jason, Vemin, etc. Some also Singaporeans --> Jonathan, Lynn, James, Eliene.

It's really nice to know u all friends...
thanks for being my maple friends ^^

Sometimes.... it doesn't seems like the ads...

2006-11-14T00:18:00.000+08:00

Being recently watch "The Covenant", when there's a price for owning a power...

surely the ads realy tempting... specialy, the movie creator was the same as "Underworld", hehehe I like vampire n werewolf movie.. horor n cool... some of the vampire also sexy :D

anyway... after seing the movie by myself (err... actually not alone, I watched it with "wo de nan peng you" [Even my lao she laugh n almost fainted hearing this words :p] -> The actual meaning was my friend that boy, but the correct translation is boyfriend :D)

From the beginning itself it already lots of talking... n it's still remain talking n talking up to the middle section... only a bit of action at the last part...

This movie also give me the feeling like seeing a dragon ball movie... since they way they do to throw the power is like "Kamehameha..."

To you that have not seen this movie...
Suggestion: don't watch !!!
To you that don't have any other movie options:
Suggestion: wait for 007 Casino the royale

Have u ever heard this song?

2006-11-04T00:25:00.000+08:00

The song is called Those who wait, the guitar player is Tommy Emmanuella, a very good guitarist.
He always play his guitar wif full heart, it's just like his music is his feeling. =)

You can also try to listen his other song called mombasa.

Mombasa man ^^

Happy listening

Remembering your childhood

2006-05-21T01:59:00.000+08:00

What do you see from that picture?? Is it look familiar?? Well for me it is. When the drawing time while I was a kid, I always draw 2 mountains, 1 road to the mountains, and a house and also trees.

Well, why suddenly I posted this topic?? Since two days ago, I had a verry cheerfull conversation with G Xiaojie.

We were talking about our childhood. At first I was thinking that my childhood life is not good, if its compared to the other kids.
Well, don't want to talk much about my past life, but, just want you to know that, I really enjoy my past life. Though not many toys to play with. Only one robot toys that I had in my childhood. The robot was from my own saving.

Its always been a habits that my parents taught me that is to buy something that you like by yourself. So to get that cool robots (for that time the robot is really cool, its displayed a movie in its stomach, can shoot 6 missile from its head :D Is it cool or what?)

Yup, I think some of you were thinking, "what you must buy your own toys?", and some others would thinking, "I also bought my own toys." For you that had many toys, you must thankful for it, since some of us just cann't afford to buy one. For those of you that had similar experience with me please also be thankful, since you still able to have toys.

Well, forget about the buying process. The main purpose is to remembering your childhood. Try to look 4-5 things that really fun when you're still a kid.

I did like playing hide and seek with my primary school friends, where at that time we not even thinking about how we'll gonna live our future, just play and focus to find our friends and catch them after that.

I also remember about the rubber saint saiya heroes that I used to have for about 10 or more characters. It was fun to play with, and really cheap toys to bought at that time. It only caused me for about Rp 50,- and Rp 100,- for one single character.

What make me want to put this topic to the top. I just want us to remember our childhood life abit, so we can be thankful for what we had. Even if my childhood life is not as beautiful as yours, but I'm really happy for having one. Still had plenty of time for laughing, crying, playing, and to mix your emotion.

You know what, after remembering my childhood, I'm begginning to feel that I'm so happy, and can relax abit, also can forget about the rough life ahead for awhile. :)

It's a recommended action to do for refreshing awhile. Have a pleasant remembering your childhood ^___^

Genting, Johor Baru, and Kuala Lumpur 12-13 May 2006

2006-05-14T22:51:00.000+08:00

On this long weekend, me and several of my friends visit three town in Malaysia, Johor Baru, Genting, and Kuala Lumpur.

We move from Bugis MRT at 7:30AM, waiting for the "Israel prime minister" Mr. Isak R. to arrive.

After that we take CW bus to Larkin, Johor Baru Terminal. Before that we stop at the check point to exit Singapore and take the bus again and stop at Malaysia Check point to stamp our passport.

After that, we're not directly continue our journey to Larkin terminal, but settle down for a while to eat and look for direct package to KL or Genting, which there is no more :p weeew. Finally we went to Larkin and take executive consortium bus to KL. The journey length is 4 hour, and it was a good time to sleep. we stop a while somewhere between Johor and Kuala Lumpur to have our lunch, and continue our journey to KL. Arrived at 4:30 PM, we're already exhausted, and the rain was pour down verry high at that time. So we must continue our journey with train first to Pudu Raya, and get our bus ticket to Genting.

Well some of us were hungry, so again we went for eating, this time is KFC as the target place. After that continue our journey to Genting. Arrived at 7:00PM with such a maze view. Genting is a high place like puncak in Indonesia. We can take 2 way to up from Genting terminal to Genting Entertainment Center. The first one is by bus, and the second one is by cable car.

Since our bus ticket is already included with the cable car fee, we must take the cable car to Genting Entertainment Center. Weeew... the cable car is quite scarry. It sure is not like Cable car in Ancol beach or in Taman Mini Indonesia Indah:p The cable car is crossing between the terminal to Genting Entertainment Center. In the middle is a 100 Million year jungle, and still the cable car must go up to Genting Entertainment Center. The journey on cable car is approx 10 minutes, with 3.8 KM distance. As you can see from the picture the height is really something, and for height phobia person, it sure is a scarry moment, since we're only guarded by a single cable :p

At Genting, I was shocked once again to see the place, it was a beautiful place with full of entertainment. Game center, Karaoke, Pub, Salon, Theme Park, Hotel, Casino, Bowling, Billiard, Restaurant, and many other more in the same place, in the same building.

We stayed at First World Hotel, and once again I've been amazed by the room number. It was the most many room hotel in the world. My room was 22730, you see, the room number is from the third digit, the 2 first digit represent the floor :D Got what I mean?

It has 2 Theme Park, inside and outside, the inside theme park was beautifull, full of light, some times remembering me with Lippo Karawaci which has the same model, inner theme park, but this one is surely bigger than that, more amusement and more entertainment also. It has Eifell Tower Miniatur, Venice Gondola Miniatur, and many more of it.

Genting is normally knowns as casino places. That's right, there is 3 big casino place in there. Since Malaysian goverment doesn't want to illegal gambling everywhere spreaded in all over malaysia, the build a big casino in Genting. You can see almost all of the gambling games in there, poker, black jack, wheel of fortune, machine matching game, etc.

But for people that come not for gambling there were many other entertainment place to visit, like the theme park, the game center, bowling alley, and snooker billiard, and also the famous flying coaster.

Now, I'll tell you about the outside theme park more, since I not observing the inner one quite detail. The outside theme park is quite similar with the one that built in Jakarta as Dunia Fantasi. But then again the weather is surely different, the weather in Genting is quite similar with Puncak and Bandung. So when you're queueing your game, u'll only feel good air, not hot air. Imagine, riding a roller coaster with fog is bellow your track, it just like riding a roller coaster in the air right ^__^

Ever had a dream to become Superman? hehehe since we cann't fly like him, in Genting there is a flying coaster amusement. What's it like? Well Flying Coaster is just like riding a roller coaster. But the main different is we're not sitting in the roller coaster, but we're have a pose like superman when flying with two of our hands above our head... Up.. .up... and awaaaaaaayyy :D
Try to keep ur mouth shout?? Hahaha, already tried, n failed to do so, since it was to fast and to crazy to do so.

There were also a Gokart Race, which you can ride it with, each race will consist of 16 player. The track the trafic there all real, the one that not real is the rider and the start, since we're prohibited to bump our car to another and the start was once in a column.

Hehehe, ok not enough time to try all the games, since we must catch the time to get back to KL. This time is not visit only, but try to look arround what's in it on KL.

Well, KL is quite similar with Jakarta. All the vehicle is quite similiar, we can found scooter bike and sport bike aswell, and the car brand is quite similar also. The different part is, every motocycle rider must turn their lamp on everytime. And the train n bus in there is verry good in comparission with Jakarta.

But the road condition, the building condition is quite similar with Jakarta. Even the highway itself is similar with Indonesian Highway. One another thing about KL, if in Jakarta you can see motorcycle ontop the pedesterian, at KL you can see Taxi ontop of it :)) Felix is almost hit by the cab driver with his un guilty eye step in to the pedesterian where he walked in. Huehehehe you must thanks to God that u're still alive Cat :D

OK, finished the journey at 12:00 AM, and we carry on to our place by bus or cab there. I'll see u in another adventure trip ok. ^___^

Why Jamaica is have many accidents

2006-05-14T22:38:00.000+08:00

East Coast Journey

2006-05-01T23:22:00.000+08:00

Sunday Journey, travelling to east coast park. At first, I was thinking that East Coast will be just an ordinary park, with lots of tree, some place near the beach and hot.

Well, I've got that point quite right, yet there is still more than that to see. It's hot, but the tree cover the area so well, and the water is so clear.

Usually people go to East Coast to have a barbeque party, biking, or playing inline skates, making sand castle, fishing, camping, although there is some other water sport activities in there, like water skateboarding, water win surfing.

Well the verry popular sport in there is biking and inline skate. Each road in there have minimal 3 way. 1 Way is for people walking it's figured by the foot step prints, and the 2 others is for inline skates and biking.

Well, most people think what if I don't have a bike, or inline skates? what should I do in there? just watching peoples who really enjoy that? Do not worry, they rent the inline skate, and the bicycle also. For Inline skate, you can rent it with S$ 6 in the 1st hour, and additional S$ 3 in the next hour. For Bicycle you can rent it with a various price, they rent various model from S$ 3- S$ 15 / hour.

Well it sure is a great place to relaxing and enjoy sporting, since I really like the inline skate there. The track is verry long. You can try to skates uphill, downhill or just flat and cornering.
The track is also fits well with the wheel, a little bit slides will make your skates quite fast.

There was also a place for playing a remote controlled car. The track is designed verry well and clean. It's just like watching the original F1 race there.

What about thirsty?? It sure is thirsty. But do not worry, they also sell foods and drinks there. Alot of Satay food, coconut, and fresh sugar caine juice. The famous "No Sign Board" Seafood restaurant is also there. How about the price, some times the price for the entertainment place is quite expensive. Hm... it's a slightly higher than the normal place. But, I think it's still on a reasonable prices.

Will get back there on next weekend, feel free to joining.

What do people said about me, and what do I said about myself, Blind Spot?

2006-04-24T22:56:00.000+08:00

Hm.. quite interesting, try to know that whether you already know urself like your friend know you?

Thanks to Botak ^__^

Arena

(known to self and others)

calm, caring, confident, independent, patient, trustworthy

Blind Spot

(known only to others)

able, accepting, adaptable, brave, cheerful, clever, dependable, friendly, giving, happy, helpful, idealistic, intelligent, kind, knowledgeable, logical, loving, mature, organised, proud, reflective, relaxed, religious, responsive, sympathetic, wise

Façade

(known only to self)

Unknown

(known to nobody)

bold, complex, dignified, energetic, extroverted, ingenious, introverted, modest, nervous, observant, powerful, quiet, searching, self-assertive, self-conscious, sensible, sentimental, shy, silly, spontaneous, tense, warm, witty

Dominant Traits

88% of people think that Ochep is friendly

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My IM Type

2006-04-22T00:47:00.000+08:00

Related to Botax's Post today, I've try my IM Character and this is the result.

You've probably already calculated that you're a brainiac!

Hello, smarty pants! A curious and inquisitive character like you gets the message in more ways than one. While some people may use IM to pass along gossip or simply kill time, you probably like to use that brainpower for more thoughtful discussions on topics like politics, the latest news headlines, or even just to laugh at yourself when you've missed the obvious.

For you, IM probably likely serves a useful purpose. Whether you're talking to a friend overseas, asking a co-worker about a project, or solving the problems of the world, you're using that mental muscle of yours. But while you like to get stuck into some hefty subjects on-line, we know that you're not one to take yourself too seriously. So keep it up, brainiac! That's a clever way to be!

People with similar results on Which Emoticon Are You? also tend to score very well on the Classic IQ test.

Grilled Cajun Chicken

2006-04-18T21:49:00.000+08:00

This night we'll perform the Special food set meal from Long John. Grilled Cajun Chicken.

It consist of rice, Grilled Cajun Chicken, Coleslaw, and Salads and olive salad oil.

With regular drinks the price will damage us at S$ 6.20. It also provide another option when you order it.

You can ask the waiter to replace either the salad or the coleslaw with a french fries. It won't cost you another cent or dollar to change it so.

Ok, now lets talk about the taste. Hm... to be honest, this meal sets is really makes you feel full, because of the combination. Specially the cajun is quite big. I'll recommend this food if only you're feeling hungry. If not, I think this option is not the best choice. The cajun is soft, and delicate. A little bit salty inside, with combination of chili and tomato, I'm sure it will become quite delicious. Now about the salad, the salad is very fresh, and the olive oil is also good and healty, good for desert. The coleslaw is standard, just like other coleslaw, or let me just say coleslaw is just another salad :p Ok, let's move on to the replacement, the french fries. Well Long John's French Fries quite special, I think it's quite comparable with Popeye French Fries. The taste is deeply within each stick.

The food place is usually has a harbour interior, and has a captain bell outside the restaurant. Below the bell there is a words, "Ring the bell if we did good." Last time I went there, there was a young girl that hitting the bell out loud. Weeeww... but I'm sure that Long John will be happy about it.

The Transformation

2006-04-17T22:44:00.000+08:00

Human do changes, even though they said they didn't. Just now, I've been seeing my old picture and my new picture, I also changed.

Getting old, yup some wrinkled already shown in my faces. Should I put some moisturizer? Hohohoho, getting old is something that we can not prevent. People are keep getting older.

That's why we should enjoy our life, and never forget about our future. I'm proud to my grand father, He had worked hard in his youth, and now he enjoys to travell. Once in 2 month he will go to Australia. Once in 6 month he will go to Beijing.

Yet not only that, he keep the family integrity and the chinese tradition in the family. He always wants that his son, and daughter, yet his grandson and so on will visit him in weekends.

Why should I talked about that anyway ^_^, just wondered, what will this lead me to? Yesterday, I visited my Aunt that currently having a vacation to Singapore, and Malaysia, and after that will go visit grandmother at Jakarta. She was telling me to keep my spirit in here, since there is no relatives in here. She and her husband were telling me about their life in Sydney, and told me about Sydney is getting more unsafe lately. Hm... that makes me think again before planning to take Australian PR.

Her husband recommended Canada or US as an alternative. Hm... that was good. But, One in a time lah, no need to rush. 1st plan is to get Singaporean PR first. After that will think about the next plan. At this time, thinking to go to Canada or US is seem to be unsure and yet untouchable. But I think, I was thinking the same thing when I was still in Jakarta and want to work in Singapore. I thought that cann't be happened in my life. To good to be come true. What I am just only a ordinary boy, that from ordinary family also.

And I remembered about one wise words, "A man with a dream can not be denied!" So, I think, who ever you are out there, what ever you are now, if you really want to do something in your life, and makes something different. I think you can do it. Background surely doesn't determine your next step, but your own desire will let you go there.

Sometimes, it takes a lot of guts to take another step, because we already feel comfortable with our current condition. Well, let me tell you. If you want a great life, you must leave the good life.

Right now, seeing Canada Snow, Vancouver, or Disney in US still verry far to me to reach. It even doesn't show a tiny bit of it. But, one of the great book that I've read once told me. How to eat an Elephant? A bite by a bite. You won't eat the elephant in one bite, but slowly in bite after bite. Someday it will be all eaten.

So, to all of my friends there. Please see your dream back, and see your current condition. How close are you to your dream? To me, it's still quite far. Let's keep taking another step ok :)

To my friends that still cann't let go the past, still holding on, yet still wish that someday things gonna be better. Check again whether you keep doing an action or just passively waiting? If you keep doing an action, there still be a chance that things will be as your wish. But what if things cann't be better? The good thing is like this, you certainly can be sure that things will not change if you just passively waiting. But, things can be change if you do action.

Happy Easter guys and girls, may Jesus blood at the Calvary 2006 years ago now remembering us about how great He was. I Love You Lord.

Ko Hanny B'day

2006-04-06T21:52:00.000+08:00

Today, is your 35th b'day. I've been wondering, how many people that you had help, so they realize their potential. How many college students that you had help to finish undergraduate, with your briliant Idea.

I thought that you had been specially created by God, 35 years ago, for helping lots of people. I know that I still don't know u alot, specially for other person sight. I only know you as my brother and friends, Hannysan.

Ko Hanny, thats what usually I called him. He was a smart and talkative person, he also bring cheer to PDC. Sometimes I thinked that he just like our own father, that will protect his child in there, even if we are naughty. Well, many of good lesson that I've learn from Ko Hanny. One of them is leadership, how to not scold your subordinate in front of public, even though that he / she were guilty. He taught me that true leadership won't make people follow by force, but by respect. He also taught me about humanity and always keep generous to no matter who, your subordinate, your boss, your ex boss, to all your friend.

This man is a one of a kind person in this world. He taugh outside but kindhearted and a great guy inside. He kindly lift me and the others and take us for lunch, even though it is quite far from the office. He was a choleric person, but he give a great input, and the input were right.

A briliant in idea, great friends, good protector, and the most important thing is great father and husband to his family. Thanks God I know you. Happy b'day Ko Hanny, this is the only gift that I can give to you from here. I hope you'll like it.

^___^

YA Visits

2006-04-04T20:49:00.000+08:00

2 weeks a go YA came to Singapore, and we were gathered with several bluejackets in here, and we went to explanade and several places too.

YA picked her friends at night and we all went to KTV Box at China Town. Weew Jening voice were awesome and surely beautiful. It reminded me of one of the beautiful voice that I've heard.

Well, that time is the first time I entered Explanade. It has a modern library in it, and a big live show performance inside. My friends told me that this place is also for performing a big international drama or show.

Explanade is surely had an unique architecture, because the roof is look like a "durian". From the top of explanade, we can see Merlion park from it, and also can see the Big Mega building there.

Although Merlion park already have 2 statue of Merlion, one is big, and the other is small, but it is not the biggest Merlion statue in Singapore. If you want to see the biggest Merlion statue in Singapore, u must go to Sentosa Island. I'll post it to you guys some times.

Hanging clothes

2006-04-04T20:36:00.000+08:00

You know that at several old HDB at Singapore, People usually hang their clothes outside the building just like on the picture. Some times, hanging clothes like this is really bursting your adrenalin.

Why? Hm... Simple, it's just because the wind. You know from up high, the wind is really strong, and you bringing out a fresh wet clothes that heavier than a normal one. At that condition, the wind, and the clothes weight will make feel so intense, even in some point your heart beat faster, specially when you're affraid the clothes will fall down, and you eventually see below :p

I don't know what the effect for other people, but for me, hanging clothes like this is surely bring some of excitement for myself. Bringing out the galah also already make your heart beating faster. Even after the process finished your heart is still rapidly beating. I think that because you still not trust to the galah strength, so when the wind blow, and you look at your clothes like that. It just like the clothes will fall.

But, the galah is surely strong, and can take the clothes weight. Off course there is a limit for hanging clothes like that. 1st thing is, don't put heavy clothes like jeans outside. 2nd, the weight total of the clothes mustn't be a burden to you who lift it up, and take it in.

As you can see from the picture, it shows different way of put the clothes within the galah. The most efficient way is using another hanger, but this one is surely rapidly beating up ur heart. The normal way is to put clothes inside the galah, this way the clothes won't easily flewn by the win. The disbenefit of using this way is, there is lack of space because 1 galah only can take about 3 clothes.

What do you do in the MRT?

2006-04-03T22:23:00.000+08:00

Hm... yesterday night, after back from Orchard and eat a delicious Sayur Asem, I went back home with MRT as usual, but Some thing unusual happened. The MRT was crowded, it's quite normal since it was Sunday. So to prevent to get the train to crowded, I consider myself to go to the backside of the train, which is usually not verry crowded.

Well, the view were suprising me..... I caught a man and woman trying to kiss. The funny thing, they even didn't care if it's a crowded place. Yup, finally they move to the corner to continue their action, don't care lah... That's not of my business.

Yet, the train was arrived, and as it try to stop, I saw another french kissing in the train..... wuaaah..... That's not all of it, after that, there were also a couple that hugging each other in front of me. Luckily they off quickly from the train. weeew....

Yet, not finished!!! (Waattt....) Still remember the couple that frenching in front of me? They continue doing something. They talk with big sound, it just feel the train were theirs... Even the girl were punching him with a really big sound. All the people inside the train looked at them I think.

So, I think I should freeze them in memory, to my blog. huehehehehehe.
Well people, lets give a big applause for the trouble maker in the MRT.

Silly, but happened in S'pore.

Commonwealth Hidden Treasure

2006-04-01T23:55:00.000+08:00

Actualy, I've been trying to write this down as soon as possible, but there was a good point too for late writing it to you. Actually the title Hidden Treasure sure is bring a big heavy burden. Because if it is not good enough, I will be so subjective writing it down to you guys all.

Well, firstly started with bored with the nearest commonwealth food market, since I don't want to go so far just for eating. But, that day I've boosting my leg and spirit to take another step, to see whats beyond the food market. And my result is not quite bad, I found another food market across the street. Luckily me, it was not the only one. I've found another two of it. So total food market near my live place is 4.

Ok, lets numbered them then. I'll call the 1st market is the nearest one, the second one is the firstly to see in the right side after crossing the street, and the 3rd one is just about the left side of the 2nd, and the 4th is standing on north, the farest and smallest one I think.

Trying to find the best food and getting to know all of the 3 new Food Market, I walked so slowly. Looking and reading the food menu, at the 2nd FM (Food Market), all the food were there almost Malay and Indian Food. Nasi Bryani, Mee Soto, Nasi Goreng Merah, Satay Food, Nasi Padang. The 3rd one is I think selling kinda westernized food. It was selling steaks, lamb chop steak, omelete steak, etc. The 4th one is selling chinese food and Indian food.

The Commonwealth hidden treasure is located at the 4th FM, Evertop Boneless Hainese Chiken Rice. The place was quite full, there were a queue for ordering the food. I remembered that the Restaurant that selling food and had queue must be good at quality. So, I try to test my luck there.

It was quite of a long time before my chicken rice is deserved right on top my table. First impression that come accross my mind is like this "weewww, the chicken is quite small, and the rice is so regular, only a small bowl of rice, I think it won't satisfy me". Well looks can be decify. It displayed with a small plate, with sliced cucumber and special oil at the bottom, covered with steam boneless chicken, and the last one is union leafkemangi leaf and special pickle. The package is being company by 1 bowl of rice, 1 bowl of soup, and 1 chili and sauce small plate.

For S$ 3,- this was a great worthy food. Since I've once eat similar food at soup restaurant at August 25, 2004. Soup restaurant was located at Semanggi Mall, Jakarta, at 1st or 2nd storey I think (not so remember about the floor). Ok, back to the chicken rice :p, enough remembering the old soup restaurant :p. Well started with tasting the special oil, I almost surprised, tasty food. Yet, another suprise just came by, the chicken were so delicate and soft (Hey... this is not a softener advertizing :p). Even with my hungry food, I take the food really slowly, because I want to taste it until the last drop of it :D (How Greedy!!!)

So, why did I told you it's better to write it now then after I firstly tried it? Well simple answer, because since that I already taste 3 different chicken rice food, to compare with commonwealth Chicken Rice. Well the 3 different chicken rice is not good at all. The malay chicken rice is a roast chicken rice, I think it's almost as the same as buying fried chicken at Jakarta so not good at all. The other 2 places were selling steamed chicken, but It was sold including the bone :p and the special oil taste is cann't be comparable good with the commonwealth one.

Conclusion, the chicken rice is announced as hidden treasure since it's has the taste for a hidden treasure. ^__^ So Want to join me here eating it?

MRT

2006-03-14T16:11:00.000+08:00

Mass Rapid Transport. Singapore MRT is just a common train in Indonesia. But the shape and the station is slightly different.

MRT is a regular train that arrives once in 6-7 minutes. Each Train contains several exits door. We sits facing each others, and stand with hand grap if the train is full.

The MRT Station

The train is divided in several journey area.

NS (North South Line) = Red Line
NE (North East Line) = Purple Line
EW (East West Line) = Green Line

The Train stopped in many station, and stops approximately about 1-2 minutes in the stations.

The interesting part that They provide each user with Ez-Link Card that can be topped up. So everytime that we want to take busses or MRT, we just tap the card to the card reader. Confuse with which side to tap, no worry, it can be tapped in any other way.

Each MRT is provided with several LCD Display that display Cinema Adds and Next Station Information. Each doors is opened and closed automatically. No need to worry about getting down the train with which foot? because it stop first then the exit door is opened. Thats also applied to the bus.

Every MRT is provided with Air Conditioner, and some of it is quite smelly, specialy the red line one :D The most crowded Line.

The MRT runs on double rail, which can be at subway, and overpass. The old Path rail is constructed over the road, and the new one is constructed at subway.

Subway Door MRT Station

MRT is the easiest Mass Transport to deliver people all over Singapore. Let's hope that Indonesian Mass Transport will be like that. Easy and afforable.

Dried Chile Pepper Chicken Rice

2006-03-12T02:16:00.000+08:00

Clementi Food Junction, Rengji Hongkong Restaurant

Price: S$ 4.00
Taste: Verry Delicated, tasty, spicy, and great.
Option: Choose between Chicken/Beef/Fish and Dried Chile or no

Review: After 08:15 PM and still not having dinner, I went to Clementi to look arround and find some place to full fill my desire. After the MRT exit, go to the Clementi Avenue, and passing 2 Food Stall in the area, I finally looked to some place that quite unique than the other two food stall. The dinning table were all rounded, and it had 4 chairs each. 1 Big Food Place were dominated by one restaurant called Rengji. Hm... seeing the menu, I decided to choose this menu. With Chicken and Dried Chile. Unique I suposed. And it was true. When it came to be served. I looked at the menu and amazed with the combination. The chile is really dried and the chicken is mixtured well with the chile, Bombay Onions, and rice. The taste was really something special. I think this is really worth S$ 4.00 price food. Nor the chile or the chicken is hot. Even the garlic oil and green chile that they provided as a complementary addition wasn't hot. I'm dying want to eat this menu again someday. Verry recomended food to try.

Malaysian Gado2

2006-03-12T01:40:00.000+08:00

Eunos Food Stall Gado2

Price: S$ 2.50
Taste: Sour, and only salty when eating it with the "krupuk".
Option: Not Provided, but I think u can choose to the level of the spiciness.

Review: The Gado-gado is really different with Indonesian Gado-gado. It's tasted sour, and only salty when eating it with the "krupuk". The packet of rice (lontong) is some how has something like soft fish bones (just try and see sarden can food, you can see the soft fish bones in some brand). I don't know whether it is something unique or not. But I consider it as something unproportional. It just making gone my appetite. The seasoning is really much, as you can see in the picture. The nuts is pounded. The aunty who sold it was Malaysian. I've miss conclusin her as Indonesian. But after seeing her dialect, I already made another conclusion which was right this time. She was Malaysian. The "Krupuk" is some how like "Krupuk kulit" like Padang foods. Well, Eating it once has give me at least unforgetable experience with it, and surely won't do it again :p

Charsiew & Roast Pork Rice

2006-03-09T22:30:00.000+08:00

Zion Road Dinner Menu

Price: S$ 3.00
Taste: Delicious with aromatic soup
Option: Not Provided

Review: This is the best Charsiew & Roasted Pork Rice that I ever eat in here. The combination between the ingredients and the meat is really good. The soup is also gives something new, its quite salty and it's good, better than sour. One another thing that really make the food is really special that, I ate it when I was really hungry :D Recommended Food.

Duck Noodle

2006-03-09T22:09:00.000+08:00

Common Wealth Lunch Menu

Price: S$ 3.00
Taste: Sour with chinese smell fragrance
Option: Can be served dry or with soup

Review: The noodle is verry thick, it's almost tasted like Spaghetty, but it sure different in the formula. I choose to eat it with soup not dry. The taste is really sour, unless for the sliced duck meat complited with duck heart. The heart was bitter. Weew, it perhaps been better if I ate it when I am really hungry:p The duck is soft, perhaps it because the thin slice, but the duck and the soup isn't mixed well, so the duck is really sour. Not recommended Food.

Chatter Box Special Gala Dinner

2006-03-08T00:30:00.000+08:00

First of all, this post is not for commercial purposes, this is only for reviewing the food and showing to you guys what's it like.

Ok, little background for this gala dinner, My cousin Robert was having 1 month celebration with his girlfriend and he was treating us for special gala dinner in Kelapa Gading Mall in the east Jakarta.

After arrived at 8:30PM we start to looking for a restaurant to fullfil our desire in eating offcourse. And we walking from distance to distance, from food court Gading 1 to Gading 3, Lapiaza, until the end we tresspasing the Gading Food City, still there is no clue where would he treat us. I was begin to crumbled and told him how hungry I was, so does Ivon (Robert girlfriend's friend). So after a long walk, well I'm sure it was long, it was 9:30PM, we at last stopped at ChatterBox restaurant. It looked quite beautiful for a restaurant. The decoration were quite relaxing also.

We order several main dishes, and I've been picture it for later recommendation.

Menu 1: Salmon Steam Set
This menu is served well on the plate with some noodle, I think it just like Kway Tiaw. The salmon was good, mixed with the special formula. Something that kinda akward is the pepper. It served with rounded Pepper as you can see in the picture, so it's so spicy.

Menu 2: Black Pepper Beaf
This menu is quite special, because the taste is really good, and the mix between the spicy formula, and the rice is also mixtured well. This is a recommended menu by me so far. Off course the original menu it was not like the picture. This was Robert's menu, and he put one of the french fried on top of the rice.

Menu 3: Mashed Potatoes With Sausage
Well lets talk about this menu, because this one is my menu. When I first ordered it, I was interested on the mashed potatoes, and then mixtured with sausage. I wonder what kind of menu is this, so I took one. The taste was merely good. The mashed potatoes is mixed with cheese, so it wasn't sour. The sausage is great also, well I don't recommended this one, because of its price was to high compared with the taste.

Menu 4: Chicken Teriyaki Sets

I don't know what's like is it, since it just like the same chicken teriyaki sets in other restaurant. So I only can show u the picture of it.

Part of Life Journey

2006-03-04T23:49:00.000+08:00

After seeing my old picture, it appears on my head to try to write down and show u a bit of my life journey.

Begin at 1999, when graduated from SMUN 1, I was consider myself to take a computer degree since I really like computer. So I've decided to enter Bina Nusantara University, majoring Information Technology.

1 year later the challenge, I joined Bluejacket All Star Community, to learn more about computer. With our slogan "We are not the best but we always try to be the best", 00-2 is continue our journey with several people in it. 2,5 months of training phisically and mentally we were formed. First RY leaves us, and then followed by BU, and the last one is JY. Our member is becoming lesser than ever.

1,5 year after that, I've got promoted to Network and Infrastructure Staff and joined the backoffice team. And time sure flew quickly, after 2 year contract is over, most of the 00-2 team were not continuing their contract, and leave me behind, since I was mutated to a new office outside Software laboratory.

This is my 00-2 Team Member 1 Year after we separated.

And the story move on. Entering the PDC as System & Simulation I met with a lot of unique and solid friends. PDCians that what we called ourself. Unique people inside Binus Corner. That some times forget about the rules of the world. We worked proffesionaly and treat others with respect. There were two strong girl in there, Henny and Yani, both of Video Team, that always busy carying Video Camera, Tripod, Line Extention everywhere when their shooting. There were also outstanding Instructional Design that gave consultation to the Binus Lecturer about how to build good Multimedia to share with their college students.

But, not only in work. In the other part of our job we were also tough and doing several outdoors together. This is the photo when we were playing Volley Ball together and named our team with Star BUG =p

Now at the 2006, who knows what kind of friends that will I had. I just hoped that I will get a bunch of new friends. Just let it flows with the wind, and just try our best to reach our dream.

FIRST

2006-03-03T16:55:00.000+08:00

First Flight
First Overseas

is surely a brand new experience
damn I sure don't like the feeling the the plane is landing, my ears is sick, and it gettin worst when the plane go down.

Nervous, yup I think that described what I've felt.
But luckily the feeling gone when I'm stepping my foot to the changi airport carpets.

Wow I had never seen an airport like that before. It's just like all the passenger is the king. They greet us with hospitality, always smile, and polite.

Still feeling amazed, I'm forcing myself to walk the step still with amazement and looking to the left and right. I stopped in front of the toilet, and curious about the toilet. So I went in there, and more amazed to see the view. The toilet is quite something, no hand services :D
That sure the right word for the toilet. It flush automatically, and when u want to wash your hand the water pour automatically also. Want some soap? just put your hand bellow the sensor, and it will tear a drop of it. Not enough you must wait for another 2 secs before it drops again.
No wonder they announce it as the 1st international airport.

Because of my friend will pick me up after he's done in the office, I must wait for his arrival. So I spent my time in the airport, enjoying free access internet, free water to drink, free foot massager to feel relax.

Outside the changi airport the public MRT is already there, it takes me from terminal 1 to terminal 2 free. Wow there's a lot of free service in here, that's what I thought. And again no wonder it has all the facility, the airport tax is surely high in there :D

I've bought the EZ-Link Card for MRT and public busses for S$ 15, and again I stunned to see how easy to use the card, we just tap the card near the sensor, it doesn't care when it side front, or the otherway arround. Just tap it, and the door will be open. My friend told me to put it in the wallet and not put it out when want to tap the card. Yes, it can be used within the wallet.

Bringing my baggage into the MRT I'm amazed again with the train, it arrives every 6 minutes on normal time, and every 2 minutes in early working hour. The train is like the bus way in Jakarta, but the seats were from plastic, and some train have LCD display on the top of the train to show some adds from the movie and some direction.

Each station provided with locality maps and line direction. So there is no story that tell about 'Lost in Singapore' hahahaha. awesome.

Ok, this is my first, everybody has their first too right.

In The End

2006-01-26T17:20:00.000+08:00

This is not a song by linkin park,
but this is describing my feeling nowadays

My fight, my breath,
My second family,
Even my first family,

Passing all moments,
Thus beautiful and sorrow,
From tears, sweat, pain,
To happiness

My First Sight
My Love,
My Friends,
Even My Newest Love

This is not a farewell word
But this is a beginning of a new journey

The tingling road ahead
I’ve settling my heart
I’ve made up my mind

It ain’t easy
But with the decision
To pursue my dreams
I’ll take the risk

If it isn’t because of you
I won’t be easy to go

Thank you Pendol,
Thank you Botak & Lenny,
Thank you Riko,
Thank you Yong,
Thank you Ko Hanny,
Thank you Julia,
Thank you PDCians,
Thank you My College students,
Thank you Tiara & Irwan,

Special Thanks for Mom & Dad,
Special Thanks for Tacie n Ocie,
You’re all will remain in my hearts

Friendship

2005-11-10T14:27:00.000+08:00

After long vacant post, I'll try to write something.
This is about Friendship. A one word that had a lot of meaning.

I still remembered when the time I was loosing some thing that very precious.
It's like loosing all the grab that I could find.
Loosing the floor that I stepped into.

My Best Friend rescued me, even though that I don't pay close attention to them when I still had my precious thing. They didn't complained... They didn't ask a lot of question. They just let me to sit next to them, and wait until I'm ready to tell them about my stories.

They helped me to outcomes the big lost. They also bring the cheer and happiness.
Sometimes I wonder, Why that I was so damned lucky to have such a good friends.
But that was a friend for..
To stand beside you..
To comfort you when you were in sorrow.
Share hapiness while you were happy.

Thank you Lord for giving me a chance to know my friend better.
Thank you Lord for make me loosing my precious thing.
Learning to accept and Learn to move on is a great lesson for me.
Thank you Lord for giving me the best friends ever.

I now should have faith in myself.
To discover what beneath the skies.
Autumm and Winter had passed.
Lets us give the warmest welcome to the new Spring.

Spring in my life,
Spring in your life.

Do more with your precious life.
Do it with your friends.

Special Farewell for Feliz

2005-07-02T11:38:00.000+08:00

2 Years we’ve known each other.
2 Years we’ve share our little secrets together.
To be honest, this is count of my best 2 years.

Now, U choose ur path,
I’ll keep on my path.
To watch u fly
To watch u reach the sky
Hopefully that u get what u want

What ever that holds you back to the ground
Please let them go
You’ll not fly as highly as possible if you still holdin on.

Love is not selfish
Love is not happy for your self
Sometimes to love mean we should sacrifice our happiness a bit
For someone that we loved.

If u feel be ing intimidated,
That’s not a right attitude
Read “The Magic of Thinking Big”
You’ll find the reason, why I said that.

Feliz, carry on your journey
Keep PDC in ur heart.
I don’t asked u to keep it in your deepest part of your heart
But keep it on the place that you’ll someday open it
To Smile and to Laugh

Farewell Feliz,
It’s really nice to know you
It’s really nice to share with you
I’ll be missing you at the 5 o’clock from mine
But the new one will surely come
Hopefully he/she will as great as you

Becareful when parking your vehicle

2005-06-27T15:31:00.000+08:00

Last Saturday, when i was eating at Hari-Hari Restaurant something bad happened.

Arrived at Hari-Hari Restaurant, I asked the Parking Man about where I can park my vehicle. He was pointing the spot right to the left side of the Parking Entrance close to the road. Since there was another motor vehicle that parked there, I went to the parking spot, and parked my vehicle.

1 hour later, my relatives told my mom that there were thieves in front of Hari-Hari. My mom asked him, "What that he was trying to steal?" "A Big red Motorcycle", he answered. My mom hurried n hush to tell me the situation. I got up from my chair, walked to the front, and see my motorcycle is still there.
But there were some people there, and some security people is out there too. So I decided to see closely what happened.

My Disc Brake Lock were Opened, it was already switched to ready to Start mode. I was thinking that I forgot to take my key from the vehicle when I left my motorcycle. But when I am checking my pocket I still found my key safe and clean with me.

Luckily I put an Electronic Alarm to my vehicle. So even tough the thief is already opened all the security key that I’ve put on, the motorcycle is still can't be started.

The strange part is... Where were the parking entrance men? Remember, I parked my vehicle right to the left of the parking entrance. He told me that, he was parking other vehicle at another spot when it happened. What?? Could he just leave the entrance not guarded?? Where were their responsibilities?

My Vehicle were closely vanish :D but saved by the alarm.
Remember, when ever u go to a place like Hari-Hari, don't park ur vehicle on the side near the road. The security guard is so careless. (It could be that they had some team work to steal vehicle)

So, please be careful when u will park ur vehicle!!!
Don't bother to use Disk Brake Lock Key, it doesn't help.
My disc brake key is big, and so thick, but they could bend it anyhow.
Buy a big and solid Security Lock like Fence Lock, that only can be opened by your key only, and if they were trying to brute force opening the lock it only can do by cutting the metal (it will slowing they movement). And don't trust any security guard, we paid for parking, but if our vehicle lost something, they pretend that they didn't do anything wrong.

Always pray, and may God bless u all.

Ochep

8 Balls Competition

2005-06-23T18:11:00.000+08:00

Several days ago, i went to Metro Pool Center, and play 8 Ball Game with several of my friends.

Well, the result is outstanding, i had lost 5 times in a row :p (Whats the big deal)
Well today post is for telling that even i had known pool since i was in junior high, my friend that start playing pool in last March can beat me 5 times in a row :p (See how stupid i am in playing pool).

No, thats not the point :p
What i'm trying to say here is hard works, and talents will surely beat the old man out (hehehehe i'm the old man in this stories).

One of my friends, that very dedicated him self to pool (he was a local master in my town) told me that my aim is so bad, even if the ball is straight to the pocket, i still can missed the ball from the pocket:p My elbow is not relaxed when stroke, so usually my ball goes a little bit out of target.

Hm.. Continuing my lost post :p
Tonight I'll play with a friend of my friend that have a tremendous skill of pool.
He once said, People that good at aim and stroke, usualy play with smooth, and no power. There is no Power Game. Slowly and place the cue ball to the right spot.

To hard to understand... indeed..
Some people haste when playing, and don't aim right, and sometimes forgot to look the next ball. Looking the next target ball is a important skill to learn. I've a friend that had skills which can be able to put the cue ball nearly to the next target ball (It's verry amazing when watching him playing).

How to aim straight???
Hm.. this is the one that I'm trying to learn too. Let see.... The most basic strategy is to imagine a Ghost Ball behind the target ball. Imagine it behind and pull the straight line from the Ghost Ball to the Pocket. It will surely go in if you can stroke well.

Okay. How to Stroke well then??
To stroke well, put ur bridge about 1 1/2 ball from the cue ball. Placed your head right above the cue stick. Your hand should be relaxed, Target the cue ball first with the effect that you want, and then aim the target ball, Use the appropriate effect to your cue ball, look at the target ball again. When you are sure with what your aim at, continue with taking a pre stroke several times. Makes sure your pre stroke goes well and not hitting the cue ball. You're ready to stroke well now. As one of the method to practice stroke well, place the choke at the end of the rail, and aim the cue ball the the choke. Practice it with no Cue Ball Effect. If your cue ball is back right in front of your cue stick, that's mean your stroke is straight well=)

Okay... let see how's tonight game will be :D

C yaaa,
Ochep

Evening Chat

2005-05-14T10:50:00.000+08:00

Menjelang Malam, sedikit lewat jam normal makan malam.
Berkumpul beberapa orang, cowok cewek berbincang-bincang (small talk). Ga ngegosip, tapi membahas perbedaan cowok dan cewek yang mungkin sebagian besar orang sudah sadar. Yang cewek komplain tentang sifat cowok, yang terlalu tidak peka, terlalu cuek, terlalu tidak peduli, takut di tolak.
Yang cowok komplain tentang sifat cewek yang ga mo bilang langsung to the point, pake minta cowoknya ngerasa-rasa.

Hehehe.. ini sih sebenernya sampe kapan juga ga bakalan klop…
Seperti di beberapa buku yang g baca… Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus…
Dua mahluk berbeda yang bertemu di bumi, dan saling tertarik karena perbedaannya.

Tim Cewek: Kenapa sih Cowok tuh gak peka banget ama perasaan cewek? Masa segala sesuatunya harus di bilang sih, kan malu… sadar sendiri kek klo ceweknya lagi butuh sesuatu, misalnya lagi minta di anterin pergi ke mall, atau lagi butuh temen ngobrol.
Tim Cowok: Ya, apa susahnya sih bilang langsung, speak direct aja… kita kadang ga ngerti apa maunya cewek klo ga bilang. Masa sih kita harus nebak-nebak. Ntar klo tebakannya salah di omelin lagi.

Tim Cewek: Cowok tuh klo PDKT ma cewe jangan lama-lama, ntar ceweknya keburu illfill lho, klo ada suka…. Apa salahnya sih langsung bilang, emang ga mo gambling apa?? Paling juga di tolak.. (Reaksi Spontan cowok: Gak enak tauk di tolak). Tapi emang ada baiknya jangan lama-lama klo lg PDKT, sebulan aja uda lama lho… soalnya kan tiap hari deket terus.
Tim Cowok: Sebenarnya bukan takut di tolak sih, Cuma mau kepastian aja.. jadi sebelum nembak, klo bisa tau hasil akhirnya dulu, mo di tolak kek mo di terima kek… yang penting tau hasil akhirnya aja.
Tim Cewek: Emang klo tau hasilnya bakal di tolak kalian bakal nembak juga?
Tim Cowok: Hehehehe, Nggak….

Tim Cewek: Klo misalnya nembak cewek, bikin eventnya berkesan n special gitu, klo bisa jangan keliatan kaya mo nembak, jadi kita-kita gak gelisah. Mo hasilnya diterima apa ditolak kek, yang penting eventnya special. Pasti teringat terus deh ^___^ (Sambil senyum kompak).
Tim Cowok: Eh??? Iya ya??
Tim Cewek: Iya dong… (langsung ngasih beberapa contoh event special).

Tim Cowok: Cewek tuh klo lagi ada masalah, truss ditanyain… “Kamu baik2 aja kan? Lu gak papa kan?” selalu bilang… (dipotong tim cewek: “Gak papa kok”)
Tim Cowok Cewek: (Tertawa bareng)
Tim Cewek: Mestinya rayu lagi dong… masa Cuma sekali tanya doang sih… truss abis kita bilang ga papa, kalian langsung bilang “Ya udah” trus pergi gitu? Gimana sih ga niat nanyanya…
Tim Cowok: Yeeeee….. kan kita uda nanyain baik2… klo ada masalah ya bilang dong to the point… Ya… terkadang kita nanya2 lagi kok…. Tapi klo jawabannya tetep aja “gak papa kok / ga ada apa-apa kok” biasanya kami diamkan dulu beberapa saat, tunggu kalian mau cerita kenapa, kasih kalian mikir gitu lho.

Tim Cewek: Gimana pendapat kalian tentang cewek yang nembak cowok duluan?
Tim Cowok: Hm… relatif ya?? Klo emang kami suka… ya bagus dong… gak perlu usaha berat2, tapi klo kami gak suka, kami akan makin ga suka sama cewek yang kaya gitu. Secara umum sih, lebih baik kami yang berusaha, jadi ada perjuangannya gitu lho..
Tim Cewek: Ooooooooo

Tim Cowok: Kami gak suka, klo kami buat kesalahan di masa lalu, truss di ungkit-ungkit lagi di ke depannya. Kami juga tau kok kami salah, gak perlu di ingatin terus…
Tim Cewek: Hm…… (Ada yang sependapat, dan kasih testimonial tentang hubungannya yang berjalan semakin baik dengan pengertian ini).

Tim Cowok: Gimana reaksi kalian klo ada cowok yang nembak kalian, truss kalian ga suka?
Tim Cewek: Secara umum sih kami bakal buat dinding terselubung.
Tim Cowok: Iya, kami tau diri kok… setelah dindingnya terpasang, kami pergi kok… cari yang lain ^__^
Tim Cewek: Klo sebaliknya gimana?
Tim Cowok: Hehehehe sama aja kali ya…
Tim Cewek: Emang ga bisa ya klo uda ditolak gitu temenan?
Tim Cowok: Bisa-bisa aja sih… Cuma klo ada tembok gitu kan beda lah…

Tim Cewek: Dasar cowok itu, klo lagi PDKT aja manis2… klo uda di tolak / putus aja… langsung deh berubah….
Tim Cowok: Lha… iya lah… klo lagi PDKT kan kami perlakukan cewek yang kami suka istimewa… masa kami perlakukan sama seperti temen biasa. Lah klo di tolak atau putus kan statusnya jadi teman… ya tentu saja kami perlakukan cewek tersebut sebagai teman aja, dengan perhatian yang juga sebagai teman. So… Wajar dong?
Tim Cewek: Hm… iya juga sih ya… hihihi

Tim Cewek: Klo lagi PDKT ma cewek, serius dong… jangan sehari SMS, sehari gak… sehari telp.. sehari gak… tunjukkan dong niat serius mu…
Tim Cowok: Oooooooooo pantesan…. (pengalaman ceweknya ilfill gara2 gak rajin)

Tim Cewek: Klo misalnya cowok suka ma cewek, truss kirim-kirimin puisi, atau apa yang berbau cinta-cintaan, truss di bales dengan puisi yang lucu-lucu… itu artinya ceweknya ga ada feeling ma cowoknya, tapi klo di balas dengan… “g gak ngerti apaan sih isinya”, itu artinya sedang memancing kalian untuk nembak langsung.
Tim Cowok: OOOOoooooooooo gitu ya (Mendengarkan dengan serius)
Tim Cewek: Iyaaaa (dengan kompak, truss sambil sharring beberapa contoh yang mancing dan yang gak suka).

^_________^ Begitulah kurang lebih evening chat yang makan waktu kurang lebih 2 jam.
Gimana pendapat teman-teman yang gak ikutan chat bareng? Mungkin ada pendapat lain, or ada tambahan?
Hehehe atau g nulisnya gak lengkap… Ya maaf-maaf aja klo gak lengkap, ada beberapa pernyataan yang tidak bisa di tuliskan menyangkut dengan privacy dari nara sumber.

Salam Mars & Venus,
Ochep

Senja tlah datang, dimanakah engkau?

2005-05-13T16:03:00.000+08:00

Kali ini g mo coba angkat kisah dari seorang tua yang tinggal di panti jompo.
Pagi hari ini, tampak matahari sedemikian cerahnya. Ku lihat dengan mata rabun ku beberapa aktifitas mulai menjelang. Tampak beberapa rekan ku di sini mulai berlari-lari kecil, katanya sih olahraga, biar jantung sehat. Beberapa rekan yang tampaknya masuk ke masa puber ke dua atau ke tiga tampak sedang menggoda suster di sini. Hahaha, ga malu sama cucu tuh??
Sesaat terlihat kesenduan dari wajah-wajah mereka. Ada apakah gerangan?

Ah... sudahlah, aku punya urusan sendiri. Ku lanjutkan bergerak-gerak kecil sedikit di depan tempat tidur ku. Ya walau agak kaku, maklum usia sudah kepala 7, tentu tidak mudah berolahraga. Sudah 2 bulan ini aku berada di sini. Kedua anak ku sudah berkeluarga, cucu ku pun hampir menikah. Pacar cucu ku amatlah manis, ah... jadi teringat waktu dia ku gendong dulu ketika masih baru lahir. Sekarang usianya.... ah.... berapa aku sudah lupa... maklum ingatan ku mulai mengabur belakangan ini, tak bisa mengingat secara lebih detail lagi.

Anak ku yang paling besar pengusaha sukses, usahanya sudah memiliki cabang di 3 kota besar, doaku selalu beserta dia. Walaupun dia keras kepala, tetapi pada dasarnya yang dipikirkannya benar, dan dia selalu mempunyai intuisi tersendiri terhadap masa depannya. Dia juga yang menyarankan agar ku berada di sini, daripada tinggal di rumah yang besar tapi sendirian. Benar juga, aku sudah tua, tidak banyak aktifitas yang dapat kulakukan, sisa hidupku juga mungkin tinggal terhitung bulan atau satu atau dua tahun lagi. Tak ingin ku habiskan sisa hidupku sendirian. Mereka semua sibuk.... Sibuk bekerja... sibuk membangun aset perusahaan.

Anak ku yang kedua berada di Canada. Dia bekerja sebagai IT Profesional di sana. Istrinya pun orang Canada yang manis. Jarang sekali dia datang..... aku mengerti karena jarak yang sangat jauh antara Canada dan Indonesia.... Cucuku dari anak ku yang ke dua ada 2. Pasti mereka sangat berbahagia di sana. Doaku beserta mu anak ku.

Beranjak siang, lamunannku buyar dari jendela taman ini. Suster datang dan memberikan vitamin dan makanan encer, maklum gigiku sudah ompong, jadi harus dengan gigi palsu atau dengan makanan yang halus. Teman sekamarku Pak chok Sam Bun, juga kurang lebih senasib dengan ku, hanya saja usianya 5 tahun lebih tua dariku. Beliau juga sangat menyayangi keluarganya.

Oh Tuhan... dimanapun keluarga ku berada... Tolong kau jaga mereka. Berkati mereka. Kuatkan iman mereka. Walaupun ku rindu dengan mereka, ku rindu dengan tawa renyah anak ku, suasana kebersaman dengan mereka. Tapi aku mengerti akan segala kesibukan mereka. Biarkan mereka terfokus dengan pekerjaan dan karier mereka masing2. Tapi oh Tuhan, semoga mereka selalu takut akan Engkau dalam setiap langkahnya.

Tak berasa….. sore hari menjelang matahari sudah di ufuk barat… Kemanakah aku akan melangkah? Dimanakah anak-anak ku?
Doa ku selalu beserta mu anak-anak ku.

Kasih sepanjang jaman

2005-05-13T15:02:00.000+08:00

Sebenarnya posting ini pengen g posting pas tanggal 8 Mei lalu, bertepatan dengan hari ibu internasional. Hehehe anyway, coz of some reason, baru bisa di posting sekarang deh.

Mama, Mami, Mommy, Emak, Mak nya, apapun sebutannya...
Dia punya sejuta kasih yang tak terhitung dan tak terbalaskan

Berapa sih nilai seorang ibu klo di kira?
Seorang ibu bisa memasak, dan membersihkan rumah
Seorang ibu bisa menyeka air mata anak-anaknya
Seorang ibu bisa menjadi tempat cucuran air mata anak-anaknya
Seorang ibu umumnya datang ketika anak-anaknya membutuhkannya
Seorang ibu selalu mendoakan anak-anaknya dalam doa-doanya
Seorang ibu menyediakan waktu untuk merawat anak-anaknya

Walaupun fisiknya tidak sekuat kaum pria, namun tenaganya juga sangat luar biasa,
menggendong tanpa kenal lelah..

How much that will coz?
Uncountable.....

Sekarang, pertanyaan sederhana ku ucapkan kepada kalian. Sudahkah kalian berterima kasih pada ibu kalian?
Sedikit kata terima kasih, dan pernyataan klo kita mencintainya.
Pernahkah kau memeluknya, dan berbisik di telinganya,
Mama.... makasih, and i love you ^___^

Ucapkanlah... sebelum terlambat...
Jangan sampai kau mengucapkannya sebagai penghormatan terakhir...
ketika ia sudah terbaring kaku, dan tak bisa lagi mendengar suaramu...
jangan sampai dari atas sana dia bernyanyi lagu "terlambat sudah..."

Say it now... say it out loud...
This one for you mom...
I Love you Mom.....
Thank you for everything that u've gave for me.

Thank you God, for giving me a great mom ^___^

Bila Anda Tidak Mampu Mengambil Keputusan

2005-04-18T15:27:00.000+08:00

Tulisan kali ini special g persembahkan buat seorang temen baik g yang sangat kuat sisi melankolisnya, dan sukar sekali masuk dalam tahap ekslusivitas dengan seorang gadis.
Selesai membaca 1 bagian di buku Mars n Venus on a Date, karya John Gray, Phd. (buku ini sering banget sih di sebut-sebut :p), g merasakan mungkin yang ada dalam buku ini bisa membantu teman g tersebut. Tapi semoga saja tidak hanya ke teman baik g saja, juga ke semua orang yang memiliki tantangan yang serupa dalam hidupnya.

Jika Anda termasuk tipe orang yang mengharapkan kesempurnaan, Anda tidak akan pernah puas dengan satu orang saja kecuali Anda pertama-tama mau membuka hati Anda. Ketika kita tidak dapat mengambil keputusan tentang orang yang kita pacari, rahasia suksesnya ialah dengan memberikan kesempatan kepada hubungan Anda sampai Anda dengan pasti “tahu dengan sendirinya”. Kemudian, jika orang yang Anda pacari itu adalah orang yang tepat bagi Anda, Anda pun dapat membuat ikatan. Jika tidak, putuskan saja dan jangan menengok ke belakang untuk paling sedikit satu tahun. Marilah kita lihat contohnya.

Richard berusia empat puluh enam tahun. Ia tidak pernah menikah, tetapi pernah memacari ratusan wanita. Dia menarik, tampan, sukses, dan ingin menikah. Ada seorang wanita yang dianggapnya istimewa, tetapi dia tidak pernah dapat menetap di suatu tempat. Ada saja yang dirasakannya hilang. Berikut ini adalah cara dia melukiskan wanita istimewanya itu.

Sarah memang luar biasa. Dia periang dan enerjik, yakni sifat yang tidak saya miliki. Saya senang sekali berdekatan dengan dia. Kami hampir menikah, tetapi dia tidak mau pindah dan saya pun tidak mau pindah.
Carol selalu mencintai saya seperti juga saya terhadap dia. Dia senang berdekatan dengan saya dan saya sering melewatkan saat-saat bergembira bersamanya. Dia benar-benar luar biasa sehingga saya tidak dapat meminta lebih dari apa adanya, kecuali bahwa dia tidak seperiang dan seenerjik Sarah.
Mary adalah wanita paling cantik yang pernah saya jumpai. Dia cerdas dan sukses, dan saya selalu bangga jika berjalan bersama dia di tengah-tengah keramaian. Saya berniat menikahinya, tetapi dia tidak terlalu menerima seperti Carol. Carol menyukai apa saja dalam diri saya. Dengan Mary saya merasa harus selalu waspada. Saya menyukai perasaan itu, tetapi saya tidak akan tahan hidup seperti itu.

Richard bisa terus-menerus mengoceh berjam-jam membanding-bandingkan para wanita yang dipacarinya. Intinya adalah ia mengharapkan ada seorang wanita yang memiliki semua kualitas itu. Semakin banyak ia memacari wanita, semakin banyak kualitas baik yang diinginkannya dari jodohnya. Richard selalu membanding-bandingkan karena ia mencari kesempurnaan. Ia menginginkan semua yang dapat ia peroleh.

Wah… luar biasa kan kutipannya. Richard tidak pernah bisa keluar dari alasannya, karena ia menginginkan kesempurnaan dari seluruh wanita yang pernah dipacarinya. Dia tidak pernah terfokus dengan satu wanita saja pada satu saat. Ia tidak pernah terlibat dengan hubungan yang ekslusif dengan seorang wanita. Ia juga tidak pernah memberikan dirinya sendiri kesempatan untuk membuka hatinya hanya kepada satu wanita saja. Ketika dia merasa tertarik pada satu wanita, bukannya tetap pada wanita tersebut ketika tahap ketidakpastian, melainkan terombang-ambing dalam ketidakpastiannya dan mulai membanding-bandingkan serta mencari-cari ke sekeliling. Hehehehe dengan kata lain, It’s always a back door exit to out of the problem. Ada saja wanita lain yang dapat ditemuinya jika orang yang lainnya dianggapnya belum bisa memberikan kepastian.

Harapan satu-satunya bagi Richard adalah berhenti membanding-bandingkan dan menghentikan sikapnya yang selalu ingin mendapatkan wanita yang sempurna. Ia harus mencari wanita yang menarik hatinya, yang jelas memiliki beberapa potensi, dan mengejarnya dengan tahapan yang benar. Stop comparing, Stop asking for the perfect match, find an interesting person of ur heart and go for it=) Goin steady is a phase that u will open ur heart and learn to know each other more deeply, and accepting ur mate in ur heart, not to change it. There were no identical people in this world, even twins still different with each other.

Balasan yang tak setimpal

2005-04-11T12:27:00.000+08:00

Sebuah kisah yang menarik mengenai kasih baru saja kudengar. Sungguh terharu rasanya hati ini. Ingin sekali ku bagi dengan seluruh pembaca kali ini.

Tema kali ini yang diangkat memang masih seputar kasih, tapi bukan kasih eros, atau kasih dengan pasangan kita, melainkan kasih yang benar-benar kasih.

Tuhan mengajarkan kepada kita, “Kasihilah sesamamu manusia, seperti engkau mengasihi dirimu sendiri.” “Kasihilah musuhmu, sebab jikalau engkau hanya mengasihi orang yang mengasihi engkau, apalah upahmu?”

Tetapi mengapa masih banyak permusuhan yang terjadi? Mengapa sampai sekarang masih banyak terjadi pembunuhan? Apakah kita sebagai manusia gagal menerapkah kasih tersebut, dan ajaran yang diajarkan oleh-Nya?

Sebelum kuceritakan kisah tersebut, ada cerita lain yang ingin kusisipkan. Sebuah poster di sebuah rumah makan, yang mengatakan kurang lebih demikian. “Mengapa pelanggan kami tidak kembali ke rumah makan kami? 3% karena mereka meninggal, 4% karena mereka pindah rumah, 5% karena kami pindah lokasi, 7% karena kualitas masakan kami kurang memuaskan, dan sisanya 81% karena pelayanan kami yang kurang memuaskan.” Apa artinya? Mengapa pelayanan rumah makan tersebut kurang memuaskan? Umumnya kalo penjual bertemu dengan pelanggan yang baik, yang murah memberikan tip, pelayanan penjual tersebut tentu akan dengan mudah baik, ramah, dan menyenangkan. Tetapi bagaimana jika pelanggan yang datang sedang mengalami masalah, datang dengan tampang yang ditekuk 12, habis perang dengan keluarga misalnya, atau baru saja dipecat dari pekerjaannya. Pastilah pelanggan tersebut memikirkan masalah dirinya, sehingga mungkin terlihat tampang yang tidak menyenangkan, atau mungkin marah-marah sendiri. Nah disinilah terjadinya pelayanan yang tidak menyenangkan. Pelanggan happy, pelayanan ikut menyenangkan sehingga pelanggan tambah happy, dan Pelanggan tidak happy, pelayanan terimbas tidak menyenangkan sehingga pelanggan tambah kesal, dan tidak akan pernah lagi kembali ke rumah makan tersebut.

Kutipan lain yang ku ambil sebagai contoh kebalikannya adalah sebagai berikut. “Saat itu pukul 17.00 lebih sedikit, dan hotel sibuk mendaftar tamu-tamu baru. Orang di depan saya memberikan namanya kepada pegawai di belakang meja dengan nada memerintah. Pegawai tersebut berkata, ‘Ya Tuan, kami sediakan satu kamar single untuk Anda.’ ‘Single,’ bentak orang itu. ‘Saya memesan double.’ Pegawai tersebut berkata dengan sopan, ‘Coba saya periksa sebentara.’ Ia menarik permintaan pesanan tamu dari arsip dan berkata, ‘Maaf, Tuan. Telegram Anda menyebutkan single. Saya akan senang sekali menempatkan Anda di kamar double, kalau memang ada. Tetapi semua kamar double sudah penuh.’ Tamu yang berang itu berkata, ‘Saya tidak peduli apa bunyi kertas itu, saya mau kamar double.’ Kemudian ia mulai bersikap ‘anda-tahu-siapa-saya,’ diikuti dengan ‘Saya akan usahakan agar Anda dipecat. Anda lihat nanti. Saya akan buat Anda dipecat.’ Di bawah serangan gencar, pegamai muda tersebut menyela, ‘Tuan, kami menyesal sekali, tetapi kami bertindak berdasarkan instruksi Anda.’ Akhirnya sang tamu yang benar-benar marah itu berkata, ‘Saya tidak akan mau tinggal di kamar yang terbagus di hotel ini sekarang – manajemennya benar-benar buruk,’ dan ia pun keluar. Saya menghampiri meja penerimaan sambil berpikir si pegawai pasti marah setelah baru saja dimarahi habis-habisan. Sebaliknya, ia menyambut saya dengan salam yang ramah sekali ‘Selamat malam, Tuan.’ Ketika ia mengerjakan rutin yang biasa dalam mengatur kamar untuk saya, saya berkata kepadanya, ‘Saya mengagumi cara Anda mengendalikan diri tadi. Anda benar-benar sabar.’ ‘Ya, Tuan,’ katanya, ‘Saya tidak dapat marah kepada orang seperti itu. Anda lihat, ia sebenarnya bukan marah kepada saya. Saya cuma korban pelampiasan kemarahannya. Orang yang malang tadi mungkin baru saja ribut dengan istrinya, atau bisnisnya mungkin sedang lesu, atau barangkali ia merasa rendah diri, dan ini adalah peluang emasnya untuk melampiaskan kekesalannya.’”

Cukup unik, kutipannya bukan? Pelanggan tersebut mungkin marah karena alasan yang diluar pelayanan hotel tersebut. Dan yang luar biasa hotel tersebut menerapkan pelayanan yang sangat luar biasa. Jika melibatkan unsur emosi, wajar saja jika pegawai tersebut membalas dengan marah, karena memang yang salah adalah pelanggan tersebut. Tetapi yang dilakukan malah sebaliknya, pegawai tersebut bersikap tenang dan sabar, serta memberikan pelayanan seperti seharusnya.

Secara umum, wajar sekali jika tindakan kita terkadang dikendalikan oleh emosi kita, atau yang lebih dikenal dengan bersikap reaktif terhadap lingkungan. Steven R. Covey, penulis buku 7 habits of highly effective people mengatakan, be proactive, not reactive. Create your own surrounding, so it impact positively to ur emotion and your action. Nah sikap proactive dan reactive, mungkin ada baiknya jika dibahas lain kali.

Ok, kembali ke inti kali ini, balasan yang tak setimpal. Apa sih hubungannya kasih dengan balasan yang tak setimpal? Sering kali kita dikasihi melebihi dari kasih yang seharusnya kita dapat, dan sayangnya kita membalas dengan tidak sepantasnya. Sering juga kita melakukan dosa, atau kesalahan yang seharusnya di hukum lebih berat daripada apa yang kita terima, dan kita mengasihi orang yang memperingan hukuman kita dengan kasih yang tidak sepantasnya.

Cinta seorang ibu kepada anaknya sering kali jauh lebih besar daripada cinta si anak kepada ibunya. Terkadang untuk kesalahan yang berat yang seharusnya mendapatkan hukuman keras, sang ibu memberikan hukuman yang tidak sepantasnya karena terlalu mengasihi anaknya. Nah inilah cerita yang ku dengar sore hari tadi. “Di sebuah keluarga yang tidak terlalu mapan, hiduplah keluarga kecil dengan 3 orang anak, sepasang suami istri, dan ibu dari sang suami yang sudah tua renta dan sakit-sakitan. Oleh karena seringnya sakit-sakitan, dan tingginya biaya perawatan sang ibu. Akhirnya si anak yang merasa kesal dan tidak mampu mengambil sebuah keputusan, yaitu membuang ibunya di tengah hutan. Dengan gagah perkasa, di gendongnya sang ibu di punggungnya, kemudian memasukki hutan belantara. Setiap jarak 100 meter, sang ibu selalu berusaha membuat tanda di pohon-pohon yang dilewati. Karena kesal dengan ulah ibunya, yang berusaha membuat jalan untuk kembali ke rumah. Si anak berkata dengan kasar, ‘Sudahlah bu, gak usah buat tanda-tanda seperti itu. Saya akan membuang ibu jauh sekali di tengah hutan, sehingga dengan kondisi ibu sekarang, tak akan mungkin ibu bisa kembali ke rumah, karena ibu tak akan mungkin kuat berjalan sejauh itu.’ Cetus si anak. ‘Ibu tau nak… Ibu membuat tanda ini bukan karena ibu ingin kembali ke rumah mu, ibu tau kondisi ibu juga tidak akan memungkinkan untuk kembali ke rumahmu. ‘Tanda-tanda yang ibu buat sepanjang jalan ini, bukan untuk ibu nak, melainkan untuk dirimu, supaya setelah engkau meletakkan ibu nanti, engkau bisa pulang dengan selamat kepada istri dan anak-anakmu di rumah.’”

Itulah balasan yang tak setimpal yang didapatkan oleh sang ibu. Namun demikian kasih sang ibu demikian besarnya kepada sang anak, bahkan untuk kondisi seperti di cerita tadi pun, sang ibu masih memikirkan anaknya, supaya dia dapat kembali kepada istri dan anaknya. Marilah kita mengoreksi diri, apakah kita mengasihi orang tua kita seperti orang tua kita mengasihi kita? Saya pribadi masih merasakan kasih yang ku berikan kepada orang tua ku tidak seperti kasih yang mereka berikan kepada ku.

Biarlah menjadi renungan kita bersama, “Apakah aku sudah memberikan kasih yang setimpal?”

Missing in Action

2005-03-16T12:56:00.000+08:00

Hehehehe judulnya rada-rada ya...
iya... abis setengah bulan ini load kerja minta ampun banyaknya. Jadi gak sempet nulis-nulis di blog. Aktif sih di forum, tapi ma mahasiswa g. Wah... Tapi biar sibuk latihan bowling tetep jalan terus... Minggu kemarin aja contohnya g ambil main paket 50rb buat 2jam dari jam 10 pagi sampai 12 siang... not bad.. klo mainnya cepet bisa dapat lebih dari 10 games.. ya artinya bisa berlatih teknik melempar dengan benar, baik approach, hooking dan sebagainya..

Pulangnya sempetin makan nasi uduk kebon kacang.... yummy uda lama lho gak makan di sana... =) dulu sih sering pas pulang meeting mampir.

kemarin malam g lanjutin baca buku John, ada pemahaman baru sih, tentang tahap kelima hubungan pria dan wanita. Pria meminta maaf, dan Wanita memaafkan. Hm... kenapa ga dibalik ya? Wanita meminta maaf, dan pria memaafkan :D

ok, mo lunch dulu skrg dah laper...

End = New Start

2005-03-01T12:10:00.000+08:00

Ide pertama yang muncul ketika akan menuliskan tulisan ini adalah, jika segala sesuatu berakhir tentu saja sesuatu yang baru akan segera mulai juga. Namun tulisan ini tidak hanya membahas ini saja.

Ketika membaca sebagian buku John Gray, Phd. Khususnya tentang Relationship, sesuatu yang g anggap penting untuk ditangkap, muncul ke permukaan, yaitu akhir yang positif. Lalu kenapa judulnya bukan itu saja? Hehehehe, suka-suka dong.... :p hahahaha, gak gak... bukan itu. End = New Start adalah sesuatu yang umum, Akhir yang positif adalah sesuatu yang khusus. G ingin tulisan ini menjadi umum, tidak spesifik di satu area saja, oleh karena itu makanya judulnya End = New Start.

Ok, back to John Gray, Phd. Beliau adalah seorang ahli tentang hubungan manusia, khususnya tentang perbedaan mendasar tentang pria dan wanita. Beliau menulis buku “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. Buku yang menarik untuk dibaca dan di perhatikan khusus, khususnya untuk orang-orang yang ingin mempunyai hubungan yang harmonis dengan alien (read orang dari planet lain). Sebagai penulis, John berhasil sekali mengungkapkan idenya, dan menjual tulisannya lebih dari 40juta eksemplar di seluruh dunia (Wow.. sesuatu yang perlu di pelajari). Terus terang saja, John banyak membuka wawasan g tentang hubungan dengan alien, dan bagaimana berbicara dengan alien. Tapi tulisan kali ini akan spesifik ke sebuah bagian dari salah satu bukunya, “Mars & Venus on a date”.

Bagaimana kita mengakhiri sebuah hubungan, dan bagaimana mengevaluasi diri dari pengalaman tersebut merupakan hal penting untuk menyetel diri kita agar kita menjadi menarik bagi seseorang yang cocok untuk kita. Akhir yang baik, tentu akan menghasilkan hubungan baru yang lebih baik pula. Mengapa??

Bila kita mengakhiri hubungan dengan menyimpan perasaan benci, amarah, atau perasaan bersalah, akan menjadi lebih sulit untuk kita nantinya, untuk memulai dengan benar ketika siap memulai hubungan lagi. Mengakhiri hubungan dengan perasaan tersebut sama saja berarti mengakhiri hubungan dengan hati tertutup.

Hati yang tertutup, akan jauh lebih sulit untuk menemukan seseorang yang cocok dengan kita, daripada hati yang terbuka. Berikut kutipan dari John, “Jika hati kita terbuka, kita dapat lebih mudah tertarik pada seseorang yang cocok dan bahkan jatuh cinta dengannya, atau paling tidak membuat langkah maju dalam menemukan seseorang yang mendekati cocok. Jika hati kita terbuka, kita dapat memastikan bahwa kita semakin dekat dengan cita-cita kita. Tetapi, jika hati kita tertutup, kita cenderung mengulangi pengalaman-pengalaman yang itu-itu juga.”

Menurut John, kalo kita mengakhiri hubungan dengan perasaan benci atau perasaan bersalah, maka kita akan tertarik pada seseorang yang membantu kita mengatasi perasaan kita yang belum sembuh itu. Benar juga sih, mungkin ini yang dikatakan dengan istilah dokter ajaib yang tiba-tiba muncul ya. Ketika hati sedang luka, butuh penghiburan, butuh kasih sayang, butuh dukungan moral, datanglah seseorang dengan sabarnya mendengarkan.. mendukung, memberikan kasih sayang, kemudian memberikan penghiburan. wow... ciri2 umum dari seorang teman yang baik atau keluarga yang baik bukan??? Sayangnya, jika hal tersebut datang dari seorang teman alien, mungkin saja tindakan tersebut di salah artikan. Hati yang luka memang membutuhkan penyembuhan, tetapi memulai hubungan dengan kondisi tersebut adalah sama saja menjerumuskan diri sendiri dan menyakiti orang lain, khususnya alien yang bersangkutan. (hehehe, ngerti kan ya maksud alien?)

Sebenarnya wajar-wajar aja sih jika kita merenungkannya kembali dan merasa, “Aku menyesal berbuat seperti itu,” atau, “Aku menyesal mengatakan itu,” atau “Aku menyesal telah bereaksi seperti itu,” dan kemudian merasa, “Aku harap aku dapat kembali dan melakukannya secara berbeda.”

John juga berpendapat memang sudah sifat manusia untuk kembali ke pengalaman yang lalu dan meluruskan atau mengubah yang kita sesali. Ketika kita menyesali sebuah hubungan cinta yang putus, kecenderungan otomatis kita adalah tertarik pada seseorang yang lain yang akan kita sesali telah menemuinya. Dengan demikian, kita akan mengulangi pola ini sampai kita bertindak dengan benar. Di lain pihak, ketika kita merasa positif tentang suatu pengalaman berpacaran atau tentang suatu hubungan cinta yang eksklusif yang akhirnya putus, kita memperoleh kemampuan mengoreksi diri dan berjalan terus. Dan pada akhirnya kita akan meningkat terus dengan tidak mengulangi pola kesalahan yang sama di waktu berikutnya, melainkan kita tertarik pada seseorang yang mendekati keinginan kita.

Kalo dipikir-pikir dan di resapi kata-kata John masuk akal dan benar juga. G pribadi sangat sependapat dengan John. Dulu (waktu smp ya klo ga salah), g pernah mengakhiri sebuah hubungan dengan akhir yang kurang baik, hm.... sebenarnya bukan mengakhiri sih.. :p diakhiri kayaknya kata-kata yang lebih tepat deh:p. Tetapi kejadian ini bukan g yang mengakhiri dengan kurang baik, tetapi alien tersebut yang mengakhirinya dengan kurang baik. Hm... kayaknya klo bilang alien untuk global banget yaa... ok.. karena g cowok, sudah pasti mahluk alien bagi g adalah mahluk venus, g akan ganti secara spesifik. Sang Venus mengakhiri hubungan kami dengan perasaan benci dan amarah, sedangkan g pribadi bingung gak tau gimana harus bersikap (Maklum masih anak SMP). Selama sisa waktu sekolah kami, hubungan kami berjalan dingin, tidak ada lagi tegur sapa yang terucap, meski setiap kali bertemu dan berpapasan mata selalu g coba buat tersenyum dan berusaha menyapa, Sang Venus selalu berusaha menghindar. Mungkin menghindar dari sebuah tragedi yang membuat hatinya terluka oleh rasa benci kali ya. G sendiri gak akan membahas hubungan g tersebut secara detail, dan hanya akan membahas point-point pentingnya saja di sini. Apa yang g lakukan ketika di akhiri? Terus terang saja, g juga emosi, hati cukup dikuasai oleh rasa marah, yang nyaris berubah menjadi perasaan benci, tetapi beruntunglah g, waktu itu g punya kebiasaan menulis diary yang cukup intensif. Jadi segala amarah dan perasaan yang g rasakan saat itu, langsung g tumpahkan kedalam secarik kertas berdarah (cie i leeee... dramatisir banget seh...). Yup... Kertas yang penuh dengan emosi, yang sudah siap untuk mengirimkan serangan balasan, yang sangat pedas untuk dibaca. Anehnya, setelah menuliskan segala emosi yang ada dalam secari kertas tersebut, maka perasaan g membaik, walaupun tidak pulih, tetapi pikiran jernih akhirnya datang, kemudian g berpikir, gak ada untungnya buat membalas seperti itu, membalas seperti itu hanya akan membuat kobaran emosi Sang Venus bertambah, dan mungkin akan semakin melukainya. Jadi setelah pikiran itu muncul, g langsung ambil korek api, dan membakar kertas berdarah tersebut menjadi abu, seiiring dari kertas menjadi abu itulah perasaan g semakin baik dan semakin lega. Itulah sebabnya selama sisa masa sekolah kami dulu, g dapat tersenyum kepada Sang Venus setiap saat, sedangkan dia tidak. Selama sisa waktu sekolah, Sang Venus tidak pernah mendapatkan Mars baru, dan menutup diri. Sedangkan g gimana? Teman-teman bertambah, dan terus terang saja, banyak sekali Venus-venus di sekeliling g, tapi memang belum cukup dewasa kali ya, sehingga g tidak serius dengan venus-venus yang ada, dan hanya menganggap mereka teman-teman yang baik saja dalam sisa masa sekolah tersebut. Intinya bukan bermaksud menyombongkan diri, g hanya ingin menunjukkan satu buah point, dimana mengakhiri hubungan dengan perasaan negatif, gak akan bagus pada nantinya. (hehehe, kok kasih contohnya kisah cinta monyet sih?? Kisah pas uda dewasa dong :p). Eit... pembaca gak boleh protes ya.... itu privacy :p

Menurut salah seorang teman g, gak semua yang lu baca dari buku itu bener lho... Hm... menurut g pribadi... semua yang dibaca dari buku itu akan benar, jika yang baca sependapat dengan penulisnya. Nah karena g sependapat dengan John, g anggap pendapatnya juga benar. (huahahahaha satu aliran kungfu seeeh :p). Ngaco... dia kan orang barat.... g orang timur gimana bisa satu aliran kungfu :p

Ok, itu opini g pribadi, nah sekarang, g pengen tau pendapat temen-temen tentang opini g tadi, gak ada salahnya jika mo ikutan sharing pengalaman juga, atau sepatah dua patah kata saran yang membangun. =)

Billiard

2005-02-26T14:08:00.000+08:00

Bermain Billiard, Hobi yang di gandrungi banyak anak muda belakangan ini. Katanya Billiard itu termasuk kategori olahraga, banyak teman g yang bilang, olahraga dimana? Sepertinya itu cuma banyak unsur fun, sekaligus unsur matematika n fisikanya. Hehehehe Sudut datang = Sudut Pantul - Effect :D Klo di daerah deket rumah, kebanyakan anak-anak cowoknya itu kenal main billiard dari usia SMP, walau masih coba-coba, tapi billiard memang tidak terlalu sulit, cukup beberapa kali main saja, maka pasti akan bisa. Tapi klo mo jago mainnya, ini butuh persistensi, dan rajin latihan sesering mungkin. Waktu pertama kali main billiard, sumpah deh gak ada senang2nya, yang ada betenya aja, karena pegang stik aja susah banget, truss belum lagi cara mukul bolanya. Sering banget selip, walau sudah di stik, maunya pukul kencang-kencang biar gaya bo!!! :D Setahap demi setahap, belajar dengan mempraktekan, belajar dengan mata dan telinga, melihat expert bermain, dan beljar dari ahlinya. Sampai sekarang sih memang tidak mahir mainnya, karena memang jarang latihan. Itu adalah salah satu foto contoh g main billiard di pola bugar Kedoya. See.. masih kurang experience.. Posisi bridge aja masih yang casual banget, bukan expert bridge mode. Pukulan stik juga masih gak fokus.. waktu nargetin sih fokus, tapi waktu di tembak, sering meleset :p boleh di bilang masih kacangan main billiardnya, masih blum bisa mukul lurus. Apalagi klo main di 9 feet table. Wuiih gak biasaaa banget.. emang beda klo belajar main billiard di kampung :))

Fuuh.. apaan sih? Kok jadi tiba-tiba out of topic banget, biasanya sharing tentang sesuatu, ini malah jadi cerita diri sendiri.. hahahahahaha... tau nih... Feliz sih..

Bahasa Internasional

2005-02-21T12:45:00.000+08:00

Hm... Pengalaman Sabtu dan Minggu kemarin benar-benar mengena ke topik yang akan g tulis kali ini. Ya, Bahasa Internasional. Klo misalnya di tanya sama orang, Apa sih bahasa internasional, jawabannya pasti pendek, bahasa inggris.

Tetapi, kemarin minggu g di kagetkan oleh sebuah informasi yang benar-benar bisa di percaya, yang mengatakan bahwa bahasa inggris bukan sebuah bahasa internasional, tidak semua tempat mengerti bahasa inggris, daerah daerah pedalaman tentu lebih mengenal bahasa mereka.

Nah... truss klo bukan bahasa Inggris yang jadi bahasa internasional truss apa dong???

Bahasa Kasih, itulah bahasa internasional sesungguhnya. Siapapun memiliki kebutuhan untuk di sayangi, dan menyayangi. Coba perhatikan bagaimana seorang Ibu berkomunikasi dengan bayinya, apakah dia menggunakan bahasa Inggris? "Hi son, how're u doing? What do you want?" Tentu saja tidak, menggunakan bahasa Indonesia? Tetap saja percuma, Bahasa yang di mengerti oleh bayi adalah bahasa kasih. Bayi akan tau apakah orang yang di depannya itu benar-benar mengasihinya atau tidak.

Pengalaman pribadi memiliki dua orang kakak perempuan yang sudah menjadi Ibu, membuat g semakin mengerti bahasa kasih yang di miliki ibu untuk anaknya.
Ketika si bayi menangis, Ibunya akan segera bangun, dan mencoba mencari tau apa kebutuhan si bayi, apakah itu lapar, kedinginan, gatal, or anything. Terkadang Ibu pun membuat suatu bahasa baru yang mungkin terlihat aneh di mata normal, seperti "nang.. ning... ning.. nang... ning... gung..... ci... luk.... ba...."
eh si bayi tertawa ^_______^

Satu hal menarik dari bahasa kasih adalah, setiap orang memilikinya.. Dan setiap orang yang berbicara dengan kasih tentu saja dapat di mengerti oleh lawan bicaranya. Pernah ga sih melihat bos sendiri dengan anaknya? Klo di kantor terlihat berwibawa, tegas, cool, tapi kalo dengan anaknya tentu akan beda sekali. Pernah g baca juga di suatu artikel media kompas, bahwa Ibu Widia, orang yang sangat tenang, jg kelihatan intonasi suara dan semangatnya ketika berbicara tentang anak-anak dan keluarganya.

Nah, gak heran kan kenapa orang bisa jatuh cinta dengan orang di negara lain? Tidak perduli suku bangsa ras dan sebagainya. Guruh Soekarnoputra pun menikah dengan wanita pakistan yang tidak bisa berbahasa inggris. Bagaimana mereka berkomunikasi? Dengan bahasa kasih tentu saja.

Ada kalimat menarik yang g dapatkan kemarin, "Walaupun sebagaimanapun juga Anda fasih dalam suatu bahasa, tetapi jika tidak ada kasih di dalamnya, lawan bicara Anda tidak akan mengerti Anda." Itulah kenapa ketika seseorang merasa marah dengan orang lain, walaupun mereka sudah berkomunikasi, tetapi tetap tidak bisa saling mengerti satu sama lain, dan semakin mereka berkomunikasi, semakin keras lah nada suaranya, karena semakin jauhlah hati mereka.

Sungguh, Love Weekend. Weekend yang membahas kasih...

Perjuangan

2005-02-16T13:30:00.000+08:00

Hari ini, setelah menyaksikan video journey foto seseorang yang sudah tergolong sukses. Semakin tampaklah suatu kesamaan antara tokoh-tokoh sukses lainnya yang sudah beredar biografinya.

Semua hasil yang ada sudah pasti merupakan hasil kerja keras dari usaha yang di upayakan sebelumnya. Background juga bermacam-macam, gak artinya background tertentu menentukan tingkat kesuksesan seseorang.

Semua di awali dengan visi yang kuat, dan tindakan yang dinamis sesuai dengan visi yang di milikinya. Semangat mengejar visi tersebut, dan kepercayaan yang tinggi untuk menggapai visi yang di milikinya.

Apa jalannya mulus-mulus aja, hm... yang umumnya terjadi justru sebaliknya, jalannya justru sangat tidak mulus, hanya saja mereka terus maju dan tidak berhenti, mungkin perlu mundur sejenak, atau mencari jalan alternatif, tetapi mereka tidak pernah sekalipun memutuskan untuk kembali dari perjalanan mereka.

Kemarin malam abis nonton film "Just Married", disana ada lesson yang g dapat. Album foto hanya menyimpan kenangan-kenangan indah, tetapi yang terjadi di balik album foto tersebut tidak selalu indah, terkadang ada kepahitan-kepahitan sebelum album foto tersebut. Begitu juga lembaran sukses kita, terkadang yang terlihat adalah segi kesuksesannya saja, tetapi tidak terlihat sama sekali prosesnya.

Jadi, jika sedang mengalami sesuatu yang kurang ok di bidang apapun yang sedang Anda sedang kerjakan, maka janganlah kita menyerah dulu, pancing dengan kata-kata positif, seperti "Pasti ada jalan.", dengan demikian otak akan berpikir untuk mencari jalan yang lebih baik tentu saja.

Pesan Cinta Blogger Indonesia

2005-02-15T18:48:00.000+08:00

Internet, 14 Februari 2005

Sehubungan dengan berbagai komentar KRMT Roy Suryo Notodiprojo akhir-akhir ini di berbagai media, kami, komunitas blog Indonesia berkesimpulan bahwa beliau kekurangan informasi atau bahkan menerima informasi yang tidak benar tentang blog. Kami sendiri memandang bahwa blog adalah hasil dari evolusi bertahun-tahun di Internet, yang semakin menunjukkan bahwa Internet adalah wadah nyata untuk saling menghubungkan orang-orang di dunia nyata.

Kami juga yakin bahwa KRMT Roy Suryo sebagai seorang manusia tentulah sangat membutuhkan kasih sayang dari orang lain. Oleh karena itu, kami, komunitas blog Indonesia pada bulan penuh cinta ini sepakat untuk mendedikasikan hari Valentine tahun 2005 khusus untuk KRMT Roy Suryo Notodiprojo.

Salam hangat selalu serta penuh perhatian dan kasih sayang dari kami untuk KRMT Roy Suryo Notodiprojo di Hari Kasih Sayang ini.

Tertanda

Komunitas Blog Indonesia

ps. Bagi rekan-rekan sesama blogger yang ingin ikut berpartisipasi, silakan lihat undangan acara ini.

-- selesai isi --

Isi dan judul boleh dimodifikasi sesuai dengan keinginan anda, asalkan masih memiliki makna yang sama. Misalnya, silakan tambahkan pendapat anda pribadi tentang blog, atau pendapat anda tentang Roy Suryo.

Selesai.

Gampang kan? Ayo bergabung dan mari kita jadikan Valentine kali ini lebih meriah. Ajak blogger lainnya untuk bergabung.

Ayam Jago

2005-02-08T17:18:00.000+08:00

24 Tahun yang lalu....
Ayam jago datang....

12 Tahun yang lalu...
Ayam jago datang juga...

Besok... tepat 12 Tahun setelah itu...
Ayam jago kembali datang...

Apakah yang akan di bawa Ayam jago kali ini??

Semoga Ayam Jago kan membawa banyak Ayam betina untuk menelurkan banyak telur emas...
yang pertanda banyak rejeki...

Kokokan pagi hari pertanda semangat baru di hari yang indah...
Apapun yang terjadi di hari tersebut...
Hari telah di sambut ceria oleh Ayam Jago persistent selama hidupnya..

Mungkin kita perlu meniru sikap Ayam Jago, yang selalu ceria menyambut pagi..
Dengan kokokan lantang seolah berteriak...
Apapun yang terjadi hari ini, aku akan melaluinya...
Apapun yang terjadi hari ini, aku menyambut dengan berani...
Hiduplah hari ku...
Hiduplah semangat ku..
Membakar jadi energi dalam kinerja ku..
dalam prestasi dan karya...
memberi warna dan manfaat kepada sekitar...

Apapun jenisnya...
Ayam jago Kate,
Ayam jago Kampung,
Ayam jago Bangkok,
Semua berkokok menyingsing pagi...
Demikian juga Anda dan Saya...
Apapun Ras dan Suku serta Agama mu
Mari kita sambut pagi esok dengan "Kokokan" kita
menyerukan suara kepada dunia
tuk kehidupan Anda dan Saya

Karya: Ochep
Spesial buat teman-teman yang merayakan Imlek besok..
Ku ucapkan Gong Xie Fa Chai
Tuhan Memberkati teman-teman sekalian

Cheers,
^__________________________^
Ochep

Sin Cia

2005-02-08T17:00:00.000+08:00

Besok adalah hari Imlek atau yang lebih di kenal dengan tahun baru China.
Penanggalan Kalendar China dan Masehi berbeda, sehingga jelas-jelas tahunnya pun terpaut cukup jauh sekitar 500 tahun.

Klo benar-benar mengikuti kalendar China, sebenarnya usia seseorang menjadi 1 tahun lebih tua dari seharusnya lho..
Bayangkan aja misalnya seseorang tersebut lahir pada tahun ini (rooster), berarti begitu lahir usianya langsung 1 tahun, terkadang klo lahirnya di kalendar masehi itu di ujung-ujung akhir tahun, malah bisa jadi terpaut 2 tahun.

Hehehehe, kok malah bahas beda umur sih....
Ok... back to the topic... Sin Cia...

Sin Cia, seperti layaknya tahun baru Masehi pada umumnya, di rayakan oleh masyarakat China, atau etnis keturunan Tiong Hua, yang menyebar di seluruh pelosok dunia (emang hobinya petualang kali ya). Biasa di rayakan dengan sembayang tahunan, kembang api, petasan plus barongsai...

Buat g pribadi, daya tarik Sin Cia adalah kebersamaan... Karena biasanya keluarga jarang bertemu, tidak berbagi cerita, dan jarang sekali berkumpul, khususnya karena jarak yang cukup jauh.

Lain sekarang lain dahulu...
Dulu pas masih kecil, daya tarik utama Sin Cia buat g pribadi adalah, baju baru, celana baru, sepatu baru....
Truss sama angpao...
Hahaha, jadi ingat dulu sampai saingan sama kakak g sendiri buat dapatin angpao terbanyak, memilih pergi ke relatif yang mana aja.

Hal lain yang menarik adalah, hasil angpao selalu tidak pernah di rasakan secara pribadi, my mother always gather all of them.. and by gold after it, and distributed it later on. ^_____^ (dari kecil uda di ajarin investasi).

Gong Xie Fa Chai,
Semoga Tahun Rooster kali ini menjadi kebangkitan ayam jago ayam jago baru seperti pada 24 Tahun yang lalu, dan 12 Tahun yang lalu..
Hujan yang turun adalah rejeki yang di syukuri sebagai kemurahan rahmat Nya.

Semoga Dunia yang damai tercipta, tahun penuaian terjadi.... dan penyertaan-Nya menjadi tumpuan hidup ku.

Gong Xie Gong Xie,
(Yang Lebih Tua dan Sudah menikah boleh kasih Angpao) ^_____^

Bertindak...

2005-02-04T16:19:00.000+08:00

Hm... pernah merasa mau melakukan sesuatu.. tetapi ga di lakukan, dan di tunda... mungkin besok.. atau tunggu keadaan membaik dulu, atau mungkin yang lainnya.

Sadar gak sadar g sendiri sering banget melakukan hal ini... delaying...
Untungnya yang masih terus dilakukan itu adalah writing idea... jd biar tertunda, ide-idenya tetap ada, n siap buat sewaktu-waktu di kembangkan. Contoh konkreetnya misalnya, rencana buat ambil CLP yang uda ketunda semenjak 2 tahun lalu. Bahkan dulu sempat ragu sih.. g ini seorang yang suka menunda apa ngga, maka dari itu beli buku tentang topik menunda. Hehehehe lucunya yang di katakan buku itu tepat sekali...

salah satu cirinya yang di katakan di buku itu adalah "Anda membeli buku ini tahun kemarin dan baru membacanya hari ini" (Hehehehe dalem banget deh...)

Tadi pagi, jam 2 pagi tepatnya, g baca topik tentang tindakan. Tindakan mengalahkan ketakutan.. sometimes... kita harus benar-benar bertindak supaya takutnya itu hilang.. Kebanyakan orang berpikir, jika mau melakukan sesuatu semuanya harus benar-benar ok. Menurut David, tidak ada kondisi yang benar-benar sempurna untuk melakukan sesuatu. Yang ada itu adalah semakin lama kita menunda untuk melakukan hal tersebut, maka semakin takut lah kita melakukan hal tersebut. David juga mengatakan tentang orang yang hebat bukanlah orang yang bisa mencegah semua resiko terjadi, tetapi orang yang bisa menghadapi resiko ketika resiko tersebut datang.

Kebanyakan dari anggota kelas terjun payung takut ketika meloncat dari kapal, semakin lama orang tersebut menimbang2 untuk lompat atau tidak, semakin besarlah ketakutannya dan semakin besar juga keinginannya untuk tidak meloncat keluar.

Menarik... dari bacaan tersebut, g mau coba sesuatu hal yang menarik pula.

(Hening.............................................)

Apa sih yang g males lakukan, atau takut kerjakan.....
hm... donor darah :p (hehehe uda lewat ini masa takutnya... waktu pertama agak nervous jg sih)
keluar negeri (mungkin juga.... dulu g memang punya alasan kuat untuk tidak melakukannya, tp skrg why not.... even i'm not taking a really big step in here)
bungee jumping??? (ini sih bukannya takut, tp blm ada kesempatan aja.. klo serius mau musti planning nih... why, when, how nya ^___^)
rafting??? (hehehe gak pernah takut... apalagi dulu yg pertama kali... hehehe ada the power of love)
nonton sendirian... (yup... ini sempat menjadi hal yg mengerikan buat g, tp desember kemarin i'm taking action, n it's really fine i supose)
Ngajar... (hm... jujur aja waktu pertama kali di test ngajar dulu sempet takut, sempet keringat dingin, tp setelah ketemu senior2 yang luar biasa... rasa takut itu bisa pelan2 di tekan... pas pertama ngajar dosen jg gitu... takut kalah wibawa... tp cuma pertamanya aja... selalu sebelum ngajar, g berbicara kepada diri sendiri dan bilang, g akan memberikan sesuatu yang lebih hari ini kepada mereka... that's help me a lot)
(uuuh... back to topic dong... yg g takut or males lakukan itu apa??)
riset AICC sih... (soalnya banyak banget yg perlu di pelajarin...)

wah.... perlu perbaikan nih... perlu action... setelah banyak mengumpulkan bahan tentang yang satu ini...
ok... segini dulu... musti ACTION nih skarang...mo kelarin koreksian...
Fiuuuh.... how i feel lots of better after writing this blog ^________^

Menjual Diri

2005-02-02T13:14:00.000+08:00

Ide ini muncul kemarin pagi, setelah 15 menit berkutat dengan buku David J. S.
Bukan yang seperti kebanyakan dipikirkan...
Kemarin ketika ku pasang status di yahoo dengan judul "Mempersiapkan iklan jual diri", banyak yg datang truss nanya?? "kenapa mo jual diri?"
"Apa sih yang bikin putus asa?" Well... first of all i want to tell you all my friend.. thank you verry much for caring me so much.. tp jangan salah kaprah dengan definisi Menjual Diri di sini.

Pernahkah Anda melihat iklan tentang suatu produk di Televisi? Apa yang paling Anda ingat dari iklan tersebut? Apa iklan tersebut menyebabkan Anda ingin membeli produk yang di maksud?

Menjual diri yang di maksud di sini adalah menjual diri sendiri kepada diri sendiri, jadi harus promosikan diri sendiri, menceritakan yang terbaik dan mencari nilai plus dari diri sendiri, untuk diri sendiri pula, agar diri sendiri dapat menerima, ingin membeli, dan percaya diri.

Setelah mahir menjual diri kepada diri sendiri, maka secara tidak langsung kita akan menjadi lebih bisa menjual diri kepada orang lain, karena rasa percaya diri yang semakin tinggi dan tentu saja merasakan pentingnya diri sendiri untuk diri sendiri.

Seperti lagunya di salah satu ost meteor garden, Happy, i just want to be happy. I really do want to be happy =)

Mengasihani diri sendiri

2005-01-28T19:36:00.000+08:00

Mengasihani diri sendiri adalah suatu hal yang menular, dan mematikan, dan sangat berbahaya. Mudah-mudahan tidak ada dari pembaca yang sedang mengalami hal tersebut.

Mengasihani diri sendiri atau yang lebih di kenal dengan sikap tidak percaya diri, dan minder. Misalnya menggunakan dalih inteligensi dan usia untuk mengatakan penyebab kegagalan yang dialami oleh diri sendiri.

Suatu kutipan yang menarik dari seorang ahli hubungan manusia yang mengatakan, "Anda sudah mendapatkan apa yang sudah Anda inginkan sekarang ini." Arti spesifiknya, "Apapun yang Anda sedang alami sekarang, Anda yang bertanggung jawab akan hal itu." Cukup mengerikan juga mendengarnya, artinya misal nilai ujian kurang bagus, artinya diri sendiri yang kurang bertanggung jawab. Bisnis Anda gagal, itu juga karena kesalahan Anda sendiri.

Banyak sekali sebenarnya contoh-contoh yang bisa diberikan.. seperti seorang gadis yang sudah lama sekali ingin memiliki pasangan dan dia tidak pernah mendapatkannya, ketika teman wanitanya mendapatkan pasangan baru, dia hanya berkata dalam hati, "Beruntung sekali teman ku, dia telah memiliki kekasih baru, tidak seperti ku". Atau ketika Mendapatkan tugas yang begitu banyaknya dari atasan, "Wah.... bete amat dapat tugas sebanyak ini... bisa botak nih mikirin tugas seperti ini. Kenapa bukan dia yang dapat tugas ini, kenapa musti aku yang mengerjakan tugas ini." "Kenapa aku mengalami semua ini".

Nah itulah contoh-contoh penyakit berbahaya ini, mengasihani diri sendiri. Tulisan kali ini gak akan coba bahas solusi dari masalah tersebut. Kurang tahu dengan apa yang sedang di alami oleh pembaca, tetapi gue sendiri pernah mengalami hal ini. Sebenarnya ketika hal tersebut terjadi inginnya tuh lari dari kenyataan, klo sebenarnya memang kita yang bertanggung jawab sepenuhnya untuk kondisi hidup kita saat ini.
Enaknya klo menyalahkan orang lain... Kerjaan yang gak kelar, itu gara-gara tugasnya aja kebanyakan, tangan g kan cuma dua, sadar diri dong klo kasih tugas. Ketika pas ujian dan gak bisa, pengennya nyalahin mata kuliahnya lah yang terlalu sulit, dosennya lah yang ga bisa ngajar, orang tua lah yang maksa-maksa kuliah... etc etc....

Well, setelah selama ini, akhirnya munculah kesimpulan, kitalah yang bertanggung jawab sepenuhnya untuk kondisi yang terjadi saat ini. Tapi bukan artinya harus menyalahkan diri sendiri setelah itu. Get Get Up, n learn from your mistake...
Orang yang pandai melupakan kegagalannya dan belajar dari kegagalannya, sedangkan orang yang gagal melupakan kegagalannya dan jika tidak mau di salahkan, mereka menyesali diri sendiri sampai berperiode waktu lamanya, dan tidak berusaha bangkit, tapi terus tenggelam dan terlarut-larut dalam rasa menyesal.

Semua di kendalikan pikiran kita sendiri, wether u choose to be happy or to be grumpy... but it's smarter.. n it's wiser... if you choose to be happy ^___________^

Life is a beautifull Thing

2005-01-24T16:55:00.000+08:00

Kemarin baca bab 1 & bab 2 buku "The Magic of Thinking Big". Hehehehe ini buku favorit g, klo lg merasa gak happy, gagal, n sejenisnya. Dari sana dapat kata-kata menarik, Life is a beautifull thing, n life till u're really dead. Don't be a half life by trying thinking about dead, or thinking the missurable thing.

Hm... menarik... Seperti di sadarkan dengan sangat-sangat ekstrim, klo hidup g terlalu berharga untuk di sia-siakan, apapun kegagalan g di masa lalu, apapun masa lalu yang memberatkan langkah g sekarang, semua itu harus di lepaskan, dan di tinggalkan. Jangan membuang-buang waktu, dan pikiran untuk sesuatu hal yang membuat diri tersiksa, dengan terus mengenang masa-masa itu.

Pohon di hati telah tumbang, tapi kejutan listrik yang akan datang nanti pasti akan jauh lebih indah, dan pohon selanjutnya juga pasti lebih indah ^___^. Benar-benar banyak sekali pelajaran berharga yang di pelajari dari kejadian-kejadian yang telah berlalu yang telah g jadikan sejarah hidup g. Seperti artinya Sejarah berarti masa lalu, selamat tinggal masa lalu, dan langkah ku pun akan makin mantap.

Langkah pertama memang berat, tp seperti tiga kata mujarab, ini pasti akan berlalu. I'll get used to it. Sekarang yang penting itu disiplin diri, ikutin komitmen hati, percaya diri, dan memanajemen otak, supaya bisa berpikir besar, terus dan terus menerus. Hm.. menurut buku sih harus nyatat notes kecil-kecil di tempat yang g gampang liat, mesti rajin bikin prakarya deh skrg. Truss di saranin jg banyak menolong orang yang lebih parah, seperti kasus komplain sepatu yang butut, tetapi stop komplain setelah lihat orang yang tidak mempunyai kaki. Menolong orang lain dan sesama juga membantu membahagiakan diri sendiri lho ^___^
Satu hal penting lainnya, harus belajar dari orang-orang yang berhasil dalam hidupnya, khususnya di bidang yang g sedang kejar sekarang, supaya semakin mantap pelajaran yg g pelajari.

Hidup ....... terlalu indah untuk di lewati dengan separuh hidup ^__________^
terlalu berharga untuk mengerjakan hal-hal yang kecil.

Feeling Needed

2005-01-22T14:51:00.000+08:00

Merasa dibutuhkan, suatu topik yang g coba angkat sebagai bahan tulisan kali ini.

Semalaman setelah membaca buku, 5 bahasa kasih, dan coba mencocokkannya dengan kehidupan g, g merasa ada satu yang g rasa agak unik. Setiap kali g sayang dengan seseorang, g selalu mencoba memberikan apa saja yang di butuhkannya yang ada pada diri g. Dengan di butuhkan seperti itu, g merasa sebagai seorang cowok yang hebat, karena bisa memberikan apa yang di butuhkan olehnya.

Rasanya bangga bisa memberikannya, khususnya kepada orang yang kita sayangi.Feels like a hero... ya mungkin g bukan Clark Kent, atau Batman yang benar-benar Super Hero, yang punya kemampuan khusus. Tetapi tetap saja g merasa klo g itu special, karena bisa memberikan apa yang di butuhkan olehnya. Dengan memberikan apa yang dibutuhkan, g juga merasa menyayanginya. Ternyata, selama ini g salah besar menilai bahasa kasih g sendiri. Benar sih, bahasa kasih yang kita kenal adalah bahasa kasih yang di berikan oleh orang tua kita. Orang tua g, khususnya mama, memberikan pelayanan kasih kepada anak-anaknya. Dengan melayani anak2nya, seperti menyediakan masakan untuk kami, menyediakan susu hangat / dingin, juga merawat cucu-cucunya yang masih lucu-lucunya, yang sebentar lagi akan bertambah 1 lagi.

Well, sometimes... perasaan dibutuhkan itu bisa menjadi senjata makan tuan juga sih, namanya juga manusia, gak ada yang sempurna kan. Terkadang ingin rasanya ketika sedang membutuhkan, dan tidak mendapatkannya, rasanya seperti tidak di hargai.

Manusia memang haus akan penghargaan. Kata terima kasih yang tulus, dan pujian nilainya bisa tinggi sekali, seperti yang di katakan oleh Mark Twain, "Saya bisa hidup selama dua bulan dengan pujian yang tulus". Wah.. klo benar kata Mark, berarti dalam setahun kita cuma butuh 6x pujian tulus yah, baik utk diri sendiri, maupun orang lain. Tapi, klo buat pasangan sendiri, mungkin perlu lebih kali ya...

Balik lagi ke perasaan merasa di butuhkan, gimana klo suatu saat g tidak lagi di butuhkan? Waduh... gawat... g merasa kaya jadi manusia yang ga berguna sedunia. Wah, klo dipikir2 dengan kerjaan bisa gawat juga ya... g bisa terancam post power syndrom nih nantinya. Harus cari ban serep segera nih, supaya ga kena post power syndrom, apalagi klo karier di kantor uda ok, truss terjadi down sizing, dan karena gaji yang besar, maka nama g ada di top one list utk di PHK.

Rasa-rasanya, g blm mengenal diri g sendiri dengan baik deh, mengartikan bahasa kasih sendiri aja salah coba.... fiuuuh... untung sadarnya sekarang.... Memang butuh waktu dan usaha untuk mengenal diri sendiri. Klo ga semalaman baca buku itu dan sambil merenungkan apa yang terjadi juga g gak bakalan sadar.

Setelah buku itu habis, buku selanjutnya dan dynamic living seminar harus segera di baca dan di dengarkan, serta di renungkan lagi...
Semoga saja ini cepat berlalu, dan imanku menjadi kekuatan utamanya, Amin.

Problem

2005-01-19T14:44:00.000+08:00

Problem atau masalah, merupakan warna dalam kehidupan kita.

Kebanyakan dari kita merasakan problem itu adalah sesuatu hal yang sangat membebani diri.
Padahal klo dilihat-lihat semua orang pasti punya problemnya masing2.

Yang berarti:
1. Kita harus bersyukur mendapatkan masalah, karena itu artinya kita masih hidup. Hanya orang mati saja yang sudah tidak memiliki problem lagi.
2. Ujian untuk ke level selanjutnya, Dengan adanya masalah di depan kita, itu artinya kita sedang di uji untuk pindah level kehidupannya.
3. Kita adalah orang yang kuat, salah satu firman mengatakan: "Tuhan tak akan memberikan kita tantangan yang tidak kuat di tanggung oleh kita.", artinya seberat apapun tantangan dan masalah yang sedang di hadapi, Kita pasti bisa memecahkannya dengan bantuan Tuhan tentu saja.

Tahun 2005 ini ku awali dengan beberapa tantangan besar. Semoga Tuhan memberikan kekuatan kepada ku dan keluarga.

Ini Pasti Berlalu

2005-01-15T18:01:00.000+08:00

3 kata pendek yang g rasa bermanfaat sekali...
Ketika kesuksesan sedang datang, janganlah terlalu bergembira.. apalagi sampai lupa diri..
3 kata pendek tersebut akan lebih mengingatkan, bahwa hal tersebut mungkin saja sifatnya sementara...

3 Kata pendek tersebut juga dapat membantu bagi yang sedang sibuk...
Kesibukan kita, seberapapun sibuknya suatu hari pasti akan berlalu..

Demikian juga hidup..
Hidup kita pun akan berlalu..
Apa yang akan kita lakukan untuk mengisi lembaran kehidupan kita esok hari...

Apapun keadaannya, seberapapun gembiranya, seberapapun hebatnya, seberapapun menderitanya,
kehidupan bagaikan sebuah roda, suatu saat akan berputar..
Ingat saja, Tuhan pasti punya rencana yang indah untuk kita..

Kado

2005-01-08T14:07:00.000+08:00

Ingat Kado, pasti ingat ulang tahun deh. Atau event-event special di mana ada seseorang yang memberikan kita sesuatu. Apa sih yang harus ada dalam kado? Yang pasti, ketulusan. Klo harga kado tersebut mahal yah puji Tuhan, klo gak mahal juga lihat nilai lainnya. Oh iya, kado ini juga termasuk salah satu bahasa kasih lho... dari bukunya 5 Bahasa Kasih yang g baca.

Hohoho, mungkin untuk sebagian cowok agak seram dengernya, soalnya kado itu identik dengan melakukan pengorbanan, yang biasanya berupa uang.

Yah... klo ada yang ngasih g kado mahal, mobil atau rumah mewah, atau emas 2 Kwintal sih gak bakalan nolak yah... paling nilai value tersebut adalah nilai guna. (Maklum blm punya rumah mewah, mobil, emas 2 Kwintal). Gak munafik, ngapain di tolak?? Ada juga yang kasih kado tapi bukan nilai guna yang terdapat di dalamnya, misalnya dulu ada temen g yang sampai bela-belain bikin kartu natal unik hasil dari kertas2 daur ulang, simple, tapi memiliki nilai seni, dan tulus dari seorang teman. Gimana dengan Kado berkesan? coba deh ingat-ingat pernah ga si dapat kado berkesan? Sure.... seseorang pernah memberikan gue dua pajangan lucu, gambar beruang. So Cute, tp yang paling lucu, pas g liat itu, selalu gue ingat dia. (bukan yang ngasih kayak beruang lho :p)

Nah... gimana klo ada yang ngasih kado yg kasat mata, alias gak keliatan secara langsung. Misalnya perhatian terhadap seseorang yang dikasihi, seperti orang tua terhadap anak, waktu berkualitas dengan keluarga, dan seperti yang ada pada bacaan yang g dapat dari e-mail.

Kayak b'day gue kemarin, kadonya special banget... plus macu adrenalin gue... gimana nggak, against the rule, in the public place.
Terkadang kado terbaik bukan berupa sesuatu yang bernilai duniawi. Mungkin buat para anak yatim piatu, kado terbaik untuk mereka adalah mendapatkan keluarga yang bisa mengasihi mereka. Mungkin juga kado terbaik untuk keluarga yang belum di karuniai anak, adalah seorang anak yang sehat. Apa kado terbaik yang pernah Anda dapatkan?

8 KADO TERINDAH

Aneka kado ini tidak dijual di toko. Anda bisa menghadiahkannya setiap saat,dan tak perlu membeli ! Meski begitu, delapan macam kado ini adalah hadiah terindah dan tak ternilai bagi orang-orang yang Anda sayangi.

1. KEHADIRAN
Kehadiran orang yang dikasihi rasanya adalah kado yang tak ternilai harganya. Memang kita bisa juga hadir dihadapannya lewat surat, telepon, foto atau faks. Namun dengan berada disampingnya. Anda dan dia dapat berbagi perasaan, perhatian , dan kasih sayang secara lebih utuh dan intensif. Dengan demikian, kualitas kehadiran juga penting. Jadikan kehadiran Anda sebagai pembawa kebahagian.

2. MENDENGAR
Sedikit orang yang mampu memberikan kado ini, sebab, kebanyakan orang Lebih suka didengarkan, ketimbang mendengarkan. Sudah lama diketehui; bahwa keharmonisan hubungan antar manusia amat ditentukan oleh kesediaan saling mendengarkan. Berikan kado ini untuknya. Dengan mencurahkan perhatian pada segala ucapannya, secara tak langsung kita juga telah menumbuhkan kesabaran dan kerendahan hati. Untuk bisa mendengar dengan baik, pastikan Anda dalam keadaan betul-betul relaks dan bisa menangkap utuh apa yang disampaikan. Tatap wajahnya. Tidak perlu menyela, mengkritik, apalagi menghakimi. Biarkan ia menuntaskannya. Ini memudahkan Anda memberi tanggapan yang tepat setelah itu. Tidak harus berupa diskusi atau penilaian. Sekedar ucapan terima kasihpun akan terdengar manis baginya.

3. D I A M
Seperti kata-kata, didalam diam juga ada kekuatan. Diam bisa dipakai Untuk menghukum, mengusir, atau membingungkan orang. Tapi lebih dari segalanya. Diam juga bisa menunjukkan kecintaan kita pada seseorang karena memberinya "ruang". Terlebih jika sehari-hari kita sudah terbiasa gemar menasihati, mengatur, mengkritik bahkan mengomeli.

4. KEBEBASAN
Mencintai seseorang bukan berarti memberi kita hak penuh untuk memiliki atau mengatur kehidupan orang bersangkutan. Bisakah kita mengaku mencintai seseorang jika kita selalu mengekangnya? Memberi kebebasan adalah salah satu perwujudan cinta. Makna kebebasan bukanlah, " Kau bebas berbuat semaumu." Lebih dalam dari itu, memberi kebebasan adalah memberinya kepercayaan penuh untuk bertanggung jawab atas segala hal yang ia putuskan atau lakukan.

5. KEINDAHAN
Siapa yang tak bahagia, jika orang yang disayangi tiba-tiba tampil lebih ganteng atau cantik ? Tampil indah dan rupawan juga merupakan kado lho. Bahkan tak salah jika Anda mengkadokannya tiap hari ! Senin keindahan penampilan pribadi, Anda pun bisa menghadiahkan keindahan suasana dirumah. Vas dan bunga segar cantik di ruang keluarga atau meja makan yang tertata indah, misalnya.

6. TANGGAPAN POSITIF
Tanpa, sadar, sering kita memberikan penilaian negatif terhadap pikiran, sikap atau tindakan orang yang kita sayangi. Seolah-olah
tidak ada yang benar dari dirinya dan kebenaran mutlak hanya pada kita. Kali ini, coba hadiahkan tanggapan positif. Nyatakan dengan jelas dan tulus. Cobalah ingat,berapa kali dalam seminggu terakhir anda mengucapkan terima kasih atas segala hal yang dilakukannya demi Anda. Ingat-ingat pula, pernahkah Anda memujinya. Kedua hal itu, ucapan terima kasih dan pujian ( dan juga permintaan maaf ), adalah kado cinta yang sering terlupakan.

7. KESEDIAAN MENGALAH
Tidak semua masalah layak menjai bahan pertengkaran. Apalagi sampai Menjadi cekcok yang hebat. Semestinya Anda pertimbangkan, apa iya; sebuah hubungan cinta dikorbankan jadi berantakan hanya gara-gara persoalan itu? Bila Anda memikirkan hal ini, berarti Anda siap memberikan kado " kesediaan mengalah" Okelah, Anda mungkin kesal atau marah karena dia telat datang memenuhi janji. Tapi kalau kejadiannya baru sekali itu, kenapa mesti jadi pemicu pertengkaran yang berlarut-larut ? Kesediaan untuk mengalah juga dapat melunturkan sakit hati dan mengajak kita menyadari bahwa tidak ada manusia yang sempurna di dunia ini

8. SENYUMAN
Percaya atau tidak, kekuatan senyuman amat luar biasa. Senyuman, terlebih yang diberikan dengan tulus, bisa menjadi pencair hubungan yang beku, pemberi semangat dalam keputus asaan. pencerah suasana muram, bahkan obat penenang jiwa yang resah. Senyuman juga merupakan isyarat untuk membuka diri dengan dunia sekeliling kita. Kapan terakhir kali anda menghadiahkan senyuman manis pada orang yang dikasihi?

Perubahan

2005-01-06T15:20:00.000+08:00

Uh... kata-kata ini sering banget deh di dengung-dengungkan, tapi nyaman gak sih berubah. Tetep aja yang namanya perubahan itu pasti pada awalnya gak nyaman, sampai sudah bisa membiasakan diri dengan kebiasaan baru.

Aktivitas malam yang biasa di lakukan, harus berubah drastis sekarang.. Pulang kantor harus ada penyesuaian baru deh. Belum lagi penyesuaian jam tidur pasca liburan :)) Itu juga lumayan butuh efort, soalnya selama liburan kemarin bener-bener jadi kalong deh, rata-rata aktivitas dilakukan dari malam ke pagi hari, pagi hari sampai siang acara tidur. Soalnya film-film itu banyak yang nongolnya malem malem n menjelang pagi. Lom lagi ada yang selalu bangun dan nangis di malam hari. Well drpd tidur ga tenang, mending jam tidurnya di robah..

Ya, klo ada kemauan pasti bisa ^___^. Toh buktinya sekarang jam tidur malah bisa brobah total, alias dari yg biasanya kebo, skrg jd minim, acara tidur cuman dari jam 2an sampai pagi doang, walau sedikit impact ke jam masuk, tp untungnya ga efek banget.

2 Minggu ini bakalan penuh tantangan, semoga Tuhan menguatkan kondisi fisik dan mental gue. (cia you cia you)

Berkumpul dengan Teman

2005-01-04T15:11:00.000+08:00

Teman, apa sih arti kata teman sesungguhnya? Apa cuma teman pada saat senang dan happy, temen kumpul2 bareng, nongkrong bareng, main bareng, apa aja deh bareng, sampai tidur juga bareng.

Berapa sih teman-teman terbaik Anda yang benar-benar siap berbagi suka dan duka, suka mendengarkan, dan membantu mendorong kita sehingga dapat terus maju dalam kehidupan ini. Secara langsung teman memberikan pengaruh besar dalam pembentukkan diri kita sehingga menjadi seperti sekarang ini. Dengan siapa kita bergaul juga akan sangat mempengaruhi keadaan fisik dan emosional kita.

Bahkan untuk beberapa kasus, teman menjadi lebih penting dari keluarga. Terkadang ada juga teman yang merubah arti menjadi rival, seperti salah seorang teman ku yang hobi nulis Kido. Dulu waktu jamannya SMP sampai SMU, g juga punya rival. Bahkan rival yang sangat tangguh, ketika sama-sama SMP, kami saling bersaing untuk memperebutkan juara umum, belajar bersama, bertumbuh bersama, bahkan sampai berolahraga bersama. Tae Kwon Do, ya... di mulai dari SMP walaupun masuk duluan, tetapi rival g punya bakat dan kelenturan yang sangat tinggi, sehingga dalam waktu yang relatif singkat dia mulai menonjol, dan menjadi sepadan dalam pertarungan yang biasa di lakukan seminggu sekali.

Walaupun tubuhnya tidak tinggi, tetapi sangat atletis, sampai-sampai dia di kenal sebagai Jet Lee nya SMU. Andri namanya, sekarang kabar terakhir yang terdengar dia sedang mengambil S2 di Guna Darma. Hm... klo mengingat2 kisah dulu, benar-benar deh... suka dan duka di bagi bareng, klo lapar ya makan bareng. Pernah kami berdua sampai janjian nembak cewek yang kami suka bareng juga, dan dua-duanya ditolak :)), sedih tapi langsung berubah jadi rasa gembira, karena kami saling menghibur, dan mengakhiri hari tersebut dengan makan es campur bareng di daerah kampung cerewet.

Kemarin ketika liburan, berkumpul dengan teman-teman band semasa SMU dulu memang membangkitkan memori-memori lama yang sudah di simpan dan tidak di akses untuk beberapa waktu di dalam kepala ini. 4 Sekawan kini hanya tinggal 3, satu hilang tanpa kabar. Kemana entah, di bawah langit dan terselimuti awan dia berada. Ya semoga kau berbahagia selalu dalam hidup mu dan selalu yakin dengan prinsip mu.

Kepada pembaca yang memiliki banyak teman, berbahagialah... tidak ada satu pun yang dari mereka yang sama. Tuhan mempunyai rencana yang indah untuk mu melalui teman-teman mu. Untuk yang merasa sepi.... coba lah benar-benar melihat sekeliling mu, pasti ada teman mu yang akan membantu mu. Mencari teman lebih sulit daripada mencari musuh. Carilah teman-teman yang benar-benar baik. Teman sejati selalu ada ketika kamu mendapat tantangan.

Anger

2004-12-21T17:01:00.000+08:00

Awesome!

Siapa sih yang ga pernah marah?

Manusia di lengkapi dengan unsur emosi, salah satunya yaitu marah. Kenapa sih kita bisa marah??? Marah kan ga baik akibatnya, klo sama orang yang jauh, liat mukannya bisa muak, truss klo deket juga bisa males ngomong, atau ngomong dengan nada kencang atau keras.

Apa sih penyebabnya? Terhina??? Menyinggung perasaan? Menyinggung Ego? Kenapa bisa tersinggung?

Hm... coba pake contoh kasus deh ngomongnya biar lebih enak.
Jadi ingat kisah dulu waktu tahun 2000, pas masih jadi asisten lab software. Waktu itu hari Sabtu, pukul 13:30 ketika jam kuliah mulai. Hari Sabtu merupakan hari yang special, karena di hari Sabtu tidak perlu berpakaian resmi (Kemeja + Celana Panjang Bahan). Karena memang masih kuliah, dan plus pake baju yang non resmi, mungkin di anggap sebagai temen mahasiswa saja oleh para mahasiswa yang masuk ke ruangan praktikum. Memang ga salah sih, karena waktu itu masih pertemuan ke-2. Mahasiswanya juga mahasiswa semester 1, masih banyak kenalan yang baru, jadi agak sulit ngapalin muka. Muka teman-temannya aja mungkin lupa, apa lagi muka asistennya :D.
Anyway... lanjut ke ceritanya.. Ketika itu lagi berdiri dengan senyum di pojokan ruangan sambil ngeliatin dan kontrol jas lab mahasiswa. Datanglah sepasang mahasiswa, yang cowok kelihatan gaul, dan suka bercerita, yang cewek juga ceriwis dan gaul. Entah apa yang mereka ceritakan, tp terdengar beberapa kalimat: "Kok gue pertemuan pertama di alpha in sih? gue kan males masuk, rese banget sih aslab nya pake ngalpain segala", suara mahasiswa yang cewek, "... Udah... bakar aja absennya, kan jadi ga ada bukti lagi tuh...", yang cowok nyaut dengan asal, sambil ngeluarin korek api gas warna orange (hehehe inget jelas lho). Kirain sih mereka bercanda.... santai aja, walau muka agak sedikit menampakan aura kekesalan. ".. Uda bakar aja...", "crrk... , crrk"".. (bunyi korek gas menyala), dan buku absen yang semakin dekat dengan api, spontan reflek ku bergerak. "EH... MO APA KALIAN" (Nada menggelegar kebiasaan ngajar di ruangan gede), sambil menggebrak meja dengan sangat keras. Mereka masih cuek bebek... langsung deh, bahan ajar yang uda di susun rapih mo di ajarin dengan senyum semuanya ilang dari kepala, yang ada tinggal perasaan mangkel, kesel, dan pengen menghajar kedua mahasiswa tersebut. Walhasil, dengan gerak cepat, dan suara cepat pula, ku jatuhkan korek gas yang berada di tangan mahasiswa cowok tersebut, dan sambil menatap tajam matanya, ku berteriak, "MO COBA BAKAR ABSEN YA??". Setelah 5 detik melotot ke yang cowok, giliran yang cewek ikut di pelototin. Tampaknya mereka baru sadar, klo ternyata asisten mereka yang sedang membentak mereka, spontan yang cowok langsung terdiam menunduk, dan berkata dengan pelan, "ga... kok.. kak... ini cuma b'canda", yang cewek menangis.

Dari penggalan cerita di atas, emosi perasaan marah ku muncul dalam keadaan apa yang sedang ku kerjakan, apa yang sedang menjadi tanggung jawab ku terancam, oleh sebuah korek gas kecil di tangan sepasang mahasiswa-mahasiswi nakal.

Nah uda tau datangnya dari mana, sekarang liat akibat dari rasa marah itu. Setelah selesai kejadian itu, Kepala ku jadi ga konsen. Semua Senyum hilang... Tatapan tajam tertuju ke seluruh kelas, penuh dengan nada mengancam, seperti memberi pelajaran untuk yang lain, jangan berani macam-macam di ruangan tersebut. Akibatnya selain kepala jadi pusing sendiri, pikiran pun jadi terfokus ke hal-hal yang negatif. Perasaan Marah memuncak, rasa enggan melayani pun muncul ke permukaan. Mengajar hanya untuk memberikan info saja, tanpa memperdulikan feed back dari yang lainnya. Sepasang yang salah yang lain kena batunya. Sungguh tidak adil memang, tapi itulah yang terjadi.

Bagaimana meredakan kemarahan tersebut? Terus terang sulit bagi ku untuk meredam seketika itu juga. Bahkan untuk minggu-minggu berikutnya kepada mahasiswa cowok tersebut terdapat suatu sikap menjaga jarak, dan acuh tak acuh. Sampai akhirnya muncul, ya buat apa sih kesel lama-lama, sedikit penyaluran dengan main game, dan menjernihkan pikiran akhirnya bisa juga ilang tuh kesal. Mungkin yang perlu di ulang adalah kata penyaluran, emosi yang sudah memuncak butuh di salurkan, dan tempat penyaluran yang positif, waktu itu ku salurkan ke game, mungkin bisa juga ke hobi-hobi positif lainnya, seperti sport, atau musik. Hehe waktu dulu masih SMP malah lebih enak lagi, waktu kesal, bisa di lampiaskan langsung di samsak berisi pasir dan batu kerikil yang tergantung di halaman belakang.

Nah... klo itu dulu, sekarang gimana dong metode penyaluran emosinya??? ya, klo sekarang kan uda ga bisa lagi sembarang jotos atau sembarang tendang, penuh dengan pemikiran-pemikiran, ya akhirnya ketemu juga satu metode bagus dari buku "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff", yaitu menulis... Ha?? Hanya menulis?? ya betul.. menulis... menuliskan perasaan Anda... Tuliskan apa yang Anda rasakan, dari perasaan marah, takut, kesal, empet dan sebagainya... setelah di tuliskan, jangan lupa tulis pula harapan-harapan yang anda inginkan, pasti perasaan akan jauh lebih lega. Maklum bukan pelukis sih, klo pelukis mungkin klo lagi marah, kemudian menyalurkan emosi nya ke karya seni, mungkin akan tercipta sebuah karya seni mahakarya baru yang penuh dengan emosi.

Sebagai penutup, mungkin ada baiknya jika kita menemukan tempat penyaluran positif untuk menuangkan emosi yang sedang meluap, khususnya emosi marah, kesal yang punya dampak negatif. Orang rata-rata mungkin sembarang saja menyalurkan perasaannya, tetapi orang di atas rata-rata bisa menyalurkan perasaan negatif menjadi sesuatu yang positif. Silahkan pilih sendiri Anda ingin masuk golongan yang mana.

The Next Steps

2004-12-15T14:50:00.000+08:00

Hari ini,

setelah berbincang-bincang dengan seorang kawan baik, pembicaraan semakin terfokus pada satu topik. "The Next Steps", apa yang di maksud dengan itu? (Gaya logat Sumy).

Kelihatannya sederhana sih.. tinggal memajukan kaki ke depan begitu saja, bahkan tanpa perlu banyak energi. Tapi dari sinilah munculnya ide tulisan ini. Secara sadar maupun gak sadar... pasti sebelum kita melangkah ke langkah berikutnya, otak kita telah menyiapkan dulu secara detil apa yg di butuhkan, berapa keseimbangan yang di butuhkan, dan yang paling penting adalah ke mana tujuan akhirnya. Apakah kita akan pergi ke Mall Taman Anggrek, atau ke Hongkong, atau hanya berjalan ke toilet. (Ekstreem amat sih contohnya ampe ke hongkong segala :D).

Kondisi ideal yang terbaik adalah, menentukan tujuan akhir dahulu, baru kemudian mengambil langkah-langkah selanjutnya menuju ke tujuan akhir tersebut. Menarik untuk dipikirkan..... Jadi ingat waktu main Need For Speed Underground II dengan Toyota Celica dengan kecepatan rata-rata di atas 200 km/h. Tujuan mudah di capai karena adanya system GPS yang melengkapi mobil, dan memberikan arah dengan jelas. Walau terkadang nabrak di tengah jalan, atau terganggu oleh "out run races", tp pada akhirnya sampai juga ke tujuan akhirnya. Gimana dengan real life kita???

Apa sih tujuan kita?? Hm.. mungkin di spesifikan lebih, apa sih tujuan anda? Jadi orang sukses? Jadi orang bahagia? Memiliki rumah sendiri, dan kendaraan pribadi, ingin punya motor gede misalnya, atau memiliki karier yang luar biasa, atau memiliki keluarga yang sangat harmonis. Pasti beda-beda deh.. walau mungkin ada yang sama juga. Ok.. lets pick one... hm.... (mini muni mani mooooo) terpilih ingin punya PDA yang baru misalnya. (kok gak ada di pilihan?) hehehe... maksa dikit. ambil contoh yg agak simple aja supaya gak terlalu panjang bahasnya.

Bagaimana langkah selanjutnya setelah mengetahui tujuan anda. Ok... pegang kuat-kuat tujuannya... kalau perlu di visualisasikan.. di bayangin tiap ari... sampai benar-benar melibatkan emosi anda di dalamnya. (Jangan lama-lama juga.... ntar di bilang tukang ngayal lagi). Cari informasi sedetil-detilnya tentang PDA yang anda inginkan... benar-benar detil, sampai di bandingkan dengan berbagai merk, setelah dapat, lihat kondisi keuangan anda. Nah untuk keuangan yang sudah memadai gak bakal di bahas di sini, soalnya itu namanya easy gained.

Gimana klo kondisi keuangan tidak mencukupi, atau mungkin gak ada sama sekali??? Tentukan kapan anda akan menjemput barang tersebut dari toko, misalnya tanggal 1 Mei 2005 mendatang. Kemudian rencanakan dengan baik strategi anda ke tujuan anda.

Contoh:
Harga PDA 6,5 jt
Dengan tabungan kurang lebih 500 ribu / months maka anda harus menabung kurang lebih setahun untuk bisa membeli PDA tersebut.
Kondisi Sekarang:
Saving = 0
Currentdate = 10/12/04
Duedate = 1/05/05
Accumulate Saving till due = 2,5 jt (5 months)
Missed = 4 jt

Nah... Tindakan apa yang akan ambil setelah melihat data di atas????
Let me knows with your comments, and i'll post soon enough to continue "the next steps"

Cheers,

Kematian

2004-12-14T14:55:00.000+08:00

Judul yang mengerikan, dan banyak ditakuti oleh manusia. Sebenarnya ide untuk menulis ini muncul setelah nonton film "Forest Gump", film lama yang dimainkan oleh Tom Hanks. Ceritanya benar-benar menggugah hati, dan thumbs up for the movie.

Cara pandang 1: Kematian sebagai sesuatu yang mengerikan, karena meninggalkan semua yang sudah di upayakan di dunia ini, meninggalkan orang-orang yang paling kita sayangi (suami, istri, anak, orang tua), segala materi yang ada (kekayaan). Apakah semuanya akan sia-sia? Kematian juga sering membuat ku berpikir, kemana kah aku akan melangkah nantinya? Heaven or Hell? Apa yang ku lakukan sudah cukup untuk membawa ku untuk berada di sisi-Nya? Belum sempat membahagiakan orang tua, juga sebagai salah satu pertimbangan. Budi orang tua yang begitu besar, sama sekali belum terbalaskan, kasih sayang mereka terhadap ku, cinta mereka yang tulus, segala biaya yang mereka keluarkan dari semenjak ku di lahirkan.

Cara pandang 2: Kematian sebagai proses alamiah yang tidak bisa di hindari, toh memang semua mahluk di dunia ini akan mengalaminya, bahkan ada joke yang mengatakan ada 2 hal yang tidak bisa di hindari manusia selama hidupnya, yaitu kematian dan pajak. Kematian juga merupakan kehendak Sang Pencipta, yang menandakan berakhirnya masa tugas kita di dunia fana ini. Aneh, semustinya kita senang ya menghadapi nya, artinya dengan berakhirnya tugas, maka hilang juga penderitaan yang kita rasakan di dunia fana ini. Suatu siklus alam untuk membalance kan jumlah penduduk di muka bumi ini, sehingga memberi kesempatan kepada generasi penerus untuk meneruskan kehidupan, mengembangkan alam.

Wah, sungguh jika di korek dengan dalam, sungguh akan menjadi topik pembicaraan yang sangat luas. Ibunya Forest Gump berkata, kematian adalah suatu proses alamiah dari kehidupan, jadi tidak usah bersedih hati. Sungguh luar biasa kearifan yang dimiliki ibu Gump, dengan tenangnya dia berkata kepada Forest bahwa dia sakit kangker dan akan meninggal di beberapa hari kemudian, dan sungguh ketabahan yang luar biasa yang dimiliki oleh Forest, karena bisa menerima kematian orang yang sangat dekat dengannya.

Kepada teman-teman ku yang sedang mengalami kedukaan, tabahlah, kepergian nya pasti ke tempat yang lebih baik, walau meninggalkan emosi dan raga di bumi, tetapi tetap hidup di hati.

Regards,

Membahas Puisi

2004-12-10T15:42:00.000+08:00

Siang ini, setelah makan siang, ku temukan sebuah cerita, entah siapa pengarang sejatinya, namun isinya menarik minat untuk menelaahnya lebih lanjut. Mungkin ada baiknya anda melihat dulu cerita tersebut:

Lelaki Sejati

Aku bertanya pada Bunda, bagaimana memilih lelaki sejati?
Bunda menjawab, Nak...

Laki-laki Sejati bukanlah dilihat dari bahunya yang
kekar, tetapi dari kasih sayangnya pada orang disekitarnya....

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari suaranya yang
lantang, tetapi dari kelembutannya mengatakan kebenaran.....

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari jumlah sahabat
di sekitarnya, tetapi dari sikap bersahabatnya pada generasi muda bangsa ...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari bagaimana dia
di hormati ditempat bekerja, tetapi bagaimana dia dihormati didalam rumah...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari kerasnya
pukulan, tetapi dari sikap bijaknya memahami persoalan...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari dadanya yang
bidang, tetapi dari hati yang ada dibalik itu...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari banyaknya
wanita yang memuja, tetapi komitmennya terhadap wanita yang dicintainya...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari jumlah barbel
yang dibebankan, tetapi dari tabahnya dia menghadapi lika-liku kehidupan...

Laki-laki Sejati bukanlah dilihat dari kerasnya
membaca kitab suci, tetapi dari konsistennya dia menjalankan apa yang ia baca...

Puisi di atas bercerita tentang seorang anak bertanya kepada ibunya tentang definisi seorang lelaki sejati. Ku anggap Ibu sebagai pandangan global orang tua, dan juga pandangan global mahluk venus.

Kasih terhadap lingkungan
Lembut dan Jujur
Ramah dan bersahabat
Memiliki kepemimpinan baik di rumah dan di lingkungannya
Bijaksana memahami persoalan
memiliki hati yang bidang (sabar)
Setia terhadap wanita yang dicintainya
Tabah dan kuat menghadapi tantangan kehidupan
konsisten menjalankan apa yang di pelajari (yang baik tentunya)

Apakah ini mewakili semua kriteria wanita tentang lelaki sejati? Mengapa tidak terdaftar di sana bisa menghidupi keluarga dengan baik. Memberikan nafkah kepada keluarga, dan menjadi contoh yang baik untuk keluarganya (teladan dan pahlawan). Di sana juga tidak terdapat melindungi keluarga. Apakah aspek2 tersebut kaku?

Menurut anda bagaimana?
Bagaimana jika tidak keseluruhan aspek di atas terdapat dalam seorang lelaki (toh namanya manusia tidak sempurna)?

Mungkin tulisan kali ini lebih mengajak anda untuk berpikir. Tapi sejenak ingin ku ceritakan kisah nyata, tentang penjual mie di depan kost.
Beliau baru menjual mie nya sore hari menjelang malam sekitar hanya +- 3 Jam saja. Setelah itu tak tahu ke mana rimbanya. Beliau berkisah tentang putri beliau yang ingin masuk fakultas kedokteran di sebuah universitas negeri, mendengar kisahnya secara tak sadar ku bergumam, wah kedokteran itu mahal pak biayanya. Tapi dengan senyum ramah beliau berkata, mahal tak jadi soal buat saya, yang penting anak saya bisa berguna, dan pada akhirnya mandiri, dan kembali lagi hasilnya berlimpah. Saya memang tidak bisa memberikan yang terbaik untuk anak saya, saya memang tidak dapat memberikan harta bergelimang untuk anak saya. Tetapi saya bertekad kuat, untuk anak saya, pasti saya harus bisa menguliahkannya. (Saya terperangah, sungguh tekad yang kuat dari seorang Ayah). Saya belum mengenal dekat penjual mie tersebut, tetapi dari pembicaraan kami, saya yakin beliau orang yang memiliki tekad yang luar biasa keras, dan tanggung jawab yang sangat tinggi untuk keluarganya. Apakah itu cukup untuk di katagorikan sebagai lelaki sejati?

Bagaimana dengan Anda? Jika Anda termasuk lelaki, apa yang menurut Anda paling sejati dari diri Anda? Jika Anda pembaca wanita, Bagaimana dengan lelaki sejati Anda?

Menulis = Berpikir

2004-12-09T11:53:00.000+08:00

Menulis = Berpikir?

Benarkah demikian?
Hal itu juga pertama kali terlintas di kepala, dan terngiang-ngiang sampai detik ini. Bukankah menulis cuma menggoreskan pena saja di sebuah kertas? Ya memang sih harus berpikir juga, karena jika tidak berpikir tentu saja huruf yang di tuliskan akan terlihat berantakan. Tapi bukan itu yang di maksud dengan Menulis = Berpikir.

Menulis = Berpikir. Yang dimaksud di sini adalah menuangkan ide / pikiran anda ke dalam penulisan, baik itu dengan goresan pena, maupun soft copy seperti saat ini. Dulu waktu masih SD, benci sekali rasanya jika ada pelajaran Bahasa Indonesia yang mengharuskan belajar menulis, mengarang, maupun puisi. Sepertinya membuang-buang waktu saja, karena toh setiap harinya berbicara dengan bahasa Indonesia. Tetapi sekarang, setelah mengetahui pemahaman ini, maka ada pergeseran paradigma tentang menulis. Beruntunglah teman-teman yang telah terbiasa menyalurkan ide nya melalui tulisan-tulisannya.

Kenapa sih penting menulis = berpikir? atau dengan kata langsungnya apa sih pentingnya berpikir? Albert Einstein manusia yang suka berpikir dan jenius di muka bumi ini juga berpikir. Mungkin ada yang perlu di sadari, otak manusia benar-benar luar biasa kemampuannya. Tidak ada sampai saat ini yang benar-benar mampu menggunakan otaknya dengan sangat optimal, bahkan menurut sumber terpercaya, Albert Einstein sendiri, hanya menggunakan 8% saja dari seluruh kemampuan otak manusia, sedangkan orang rata-rata hanya menggunakan 6% saja. So... Bedanya kita (hehehe termasuk yg rata-rata juga nih) dengan Albert Einstein hanya 2% saja. Bayangkan 2% bedanya saja bisa menciptakan teori relativitas, dan bom Atom.

Ok, sekarang gimana sih mengoptimalkan otak kita? Sama seperti anggota tubuh yang lain. Jika anda ingin melatih otot perut, maka anda harus menggunakan otot perut tersebut sering dengan tekanan yang bertahap sesuai dengan kemampuan otot. Jika ingin melatih Otot bisep lengan anda, maka lengan anda harus di latih dengan memberikan tekanan supaya otot tersebut berkontraksi sesuai dengan kemampuan otot anda. Dengan frekuensi yang baik, maka kekuatan otot akan bertambah, sehingga mulai kencang, dan semakin terbentuk. Demikian juga untuk otak kita, masih ingat waktu kita kecil di ajarkan hapalan matematika, di mana 1 + 1 = 2, 2 + 2 = 4, dst. Sehingga operasi aritmatika sampai level tertentu dapat di kerjakan dengan cepat. Cara tersebut termasuk melatih otak kita, tapi masih banyak cara yang lain jika anda kurang suka matematika. "Think" yup... that's the right word... Berpikir... Berpikir adalah suatu hal yang melatih otak kita.

Berpikir tentang apa? Masalah hidupku sudah banyak, ga ada waktu untuk berpikir2 seperti itu. Ya, sering sekali mendengar kalimat demikian, juga kalimat yang satu ini. "I'm too bussy. I don't have time for playin arround, or do something like that.". Ya, kembali ke tulisan saya sebelumnya, jika anda berpikir demikian maka perasaan anda juga akan merasakan demikian, sehingga sikap dan tindakan anda akan berlaku demikian juga. Semua manusia memiliki waktu yang sama, dari manusia multi milyuner dan manusia super miskin yang mencari sesuap nasi dari belas kasihan orang lain. Semua memiliki 24 Jam sehari.

Setelah membaca beberapa buku, banyak sekali orang yang sukses meluangkan waktu khusus untuk berpikir, dan menjadikannya kebiasaan. Sehingga banyak sekali ide hebat yang dapat di pikirkan. Jika David Beckham dapat melakukan tendangan yang sangat akurat, itu karena latihan dan kerja kerasnya sehingga dia dapat menendang sedemikian hebatnya, maka otak kita pun dapat melakukannya.

Sulit dong?? Ya, memang tidak mudah, tetapi semua orang dari berbagai usia bisa melakukannya. Perlu konsisten dan persisten untuk melakukannya. Luangkan waktu khusus untuk berpikir tentang apa yang anda inginkan, dan strategi perencanaan untuk mendapatkannya. Rencana yang baik akan membantu pelaksanaan yang baik pula. Nothing to loose right?

Selamat mencoba,

Time passed by

2004-12-07T11:44:00.000+08:00

Yup......
Seperti judulnya, waktu berlalu demikian cepatnya, sampai-sampai ga berasa.
Manusia memang bisa berusaha, tetapi tetap pada akhirnya Tuhan pula yang menentukan.

Dua hari ini banyak hal positif yang di dapatkan dari bukunya John C. Maxwell Berpikir lain dari biasanya. Sebenarnya sih tuh buku uda lama ngandang di lemari buku, hehehe, tapi baru aja dibaca secara serius dalam 2 hari ini, itupun blm selesai, baru ampe chapter 4. Tapi harus di selesaikan dan di implementasikan lho.

Ada hal menarik dari buku tersebut, yaitu mengenai cara berpikir.
Ketika ada sesuatu hal yang menimpa diri kita, kita mungkin bisa melihatnya sebagai sesuatu yang baik, bisa juga sebagai sesuatu yang buruk. Mungkin sebuah kisah bisa lebih detail menyampaikannya kepada anda sekalian.

Joanne dan Grace dua orang kakak beradik yang hidup serumah dengan ibu mereka. Setelah menyelesaikan kuliah S1 nya, dan tidak melanjutkan sekolah selama 2 tahun lamanya, tiba-tiba di suatu sore Grace sang adik, dengan riangnya memberitahukan ibu dan Joanne kakaknya bahwa dia mendapatkan kesempatan beasiswa untuk melanjutkan studinya selama 2 tahun di universitas pasca sarjana yang bonafid. Tentu saja Grace ceria sekali dan membayangkan nasib dan kariernya serta kehidupannya akan lebih cerah setelah menyelesaikan studi S2 nya nanti. Setelah Grace pergi, Joanne sang kakak berkata pada ibunya, "Ma, Joanne ikut senang Grace bisa dapat Studi, tapi Joanne juga merasa kasihan, karena Grace harus menghabiskan 2 tahun lagi untuk belajar."

See what i've mean?? Yang satu memiliki pikiran bahwa kehidupan dan carier akan meningkat setelah studi selesai, yang lainnya memiliki pikiran bahwa itu akan menghabiskan waktu 2 tahun lagi untuk belajar.

Lho apa pentingnya? Kan itu cuma pandangan? That's what i've thinked too.
Sadarkah anda akan prinsip anda mendapatkan apa yang anda tabur, if you plan corn you'll get corn, if you plan love you'll get love too. Mungkin banyak sekali orang yang sudah paham dengan hal itu, membahas hal tersebut sama seperti membahas suatu hal yang basi, dan tidak perlu di bahas lagi:D, but anyway banyak juga yang hanya mengerti prinsip tersebut untuk hal fisik saja, padahal mental kita juga sama lhoo.... Mental kita juga memiliki prinsip tersebut. Kalau anda sedang mengalami tekanan, stress, dan masalah-masalah lain yang ada di pikiran anda, pasti pekerjaan anda di bidang apapun tidak akan se efektif biasanya. (Tul kan ^__^) Nah coba kalo anda sedang senang, mood lagi baik, pasti anda juga akan bekerja lebih ceria, banyak pekerjaan yang selesai.

Tapi itu kan mood bukan pikiran.... apa efeknya pikiran sama efektivitas kerja???
Hehehe, sama banget sih pertanyaannya. Mudah-mudahan sama juga hasil akhirnya, karena di akhirnya gue merubah pandangan gue. Ok, berdasarkan pendapat John di bukunya, pikiran mempengaruhi mood. Gak percaya??? hehehe buktiin sendiri aja.. coba aja pikirkan beberapa hal buruk yang menimpa anda hari ini, seperti jalanan yang macet banget... mo beli bubur ayam udah keabisan padahal yang sebelumnya masih kebagian, mo bangun siang ga bisa, karena bos uda nunggu di kantor, truss banyak lagi... Nah.. pasti mood juga langsung kena deh.. langsung tampang berubah (khusus yg sanguinis) klo plegh sih gak keliatan :D Senyum berkurang... kurang ramah ama lingkungan, dsb.

Coba sekarang pikirin hal-hal menyenangkan yang terjadi hari ini, misalnya gara-gara gak jadi beli bubur berarti anda menghemat uang sarapan anda, untuk beli makan siang yang lebih bergizi. Gara-gara macet-macetan sama three in one, jadi komunikasi suami istri dan sosialisasi dengan teman anda menjadi lebih baik, kan ngobrol di mobil... Lho klo yang naik angkot gimana? ya mungkin gara-gara macet, anda jadi ngobrol sama orang di angkot dan jadi kenalan, kan dapat kenalan baru :), pasti ada kok hal-hal menyenangkan yang terjadi, tinggal anda cari aja..
Nah mood juga pasti akan beda deh, jadi happy, klo ketemu orang say hai.... dengan senyum maniezz... hehehe buat yg jomblo siapa tau aja ada yg suka ama senyum anda apalagi klo odolnya glister. (hehehe nyempil komersial break)

Nah, urutannya seperti ini,

pikiran kita menentukan perasaan kita
perasaan kita menentukan sikap kita
sikap kita menentukan tindakan anda
tindakan anda menentukan masa depan anda
jadi pikiran anda menentukan masa depan anda =)

hati-hati juga dengan ucapan anda, karena ucapan itu pasti sebelumnya keluar karena di pikirkan.

Semua yang mulia, semua yang patut di puji, semua yang jujur, semua baik, ucapkanlah itu.

Sebenarnya mo nambahin puisi lagi sih... tapi lupa puisinya...
Judul puisinya doang yang ingat Penjaga
Inti sarinya seperti ini, Anda adalah penjaga gerbang
semua yang angkuh dan jahat ingin masuk ke dalam gerbang
semua yang baik dan anggun pun ingin masuk ke dalam gerbang
Siapa yang akan anda ijinkan masuk ke dalam?
Hati-hati dengan kesombongan, dan sikap tamak, mereka akan melakukan segala cara untuk mencoba masuk ke dalam gerbang.

Semoga berguna,

10 Right fingers

2004-08-06T17:36:00.000+08:00

Confuse with the title?

How come i had 10 right fingers? of course not, it's one of my friends finger, feliz. A fantastic graphic designer in my office. First impression to make is, she is beautifull. Second oppinion she is nice, third oppinion, she is awesome in style.

Curious??? See her full picture in my friendster list.

Kaos Mission Inovation

2004-07-30T15:07:00.000+08:00

Delayed T-Shirt :-

The Back Side Of the Shirt

Kaos ini telatnya lamaaaaaaaa banget, di rancang sama feliz buat acara Mission Inovation, eh malah munculnya 6 bulan berikutnya =))

Bener2 keterlaluan tukang buat kaosnya..

2004-07-28T17:26:00.000+08:00

After Running from Syahdan

Fully Bussy Week

2004-07-27T18:35:00.000+08:00

Hi.......

Long time no seee......
I've bet u missed my stories a lot :p

Well, This full Week is extra ordinary....
Wake up at 7AM .....
start my day with taking a long bath,
a little bit sport so make me feel fresh in the office

Bussy day at office,
Fixing some bugs here...
Fixing some bugs there...
Making Report progress...
Lunch...
Meeting...
Checking my Index also...

Afternoon activities..
Trafic Jam..... Trafic Jam...
Why is Jakarta is full of polution
Well, Yumin always told me to wear a mask
to protect my lounge from the free radical...
Well i hope Nutrilite will always help me with those

Hm......... Boring activities?
Yes... just several recreation..
like watching "King Arthur"
Shoping.... at ADC
and another shoping...

Ooooo i forget....
Last Week, i went to Anyer
Stay in the Marbella Hotel
We enjoy the sun sets, sun rises
We also enjoy the wave...
well not to big to surfing
it's only just about 1 m height...
but cool enough for surfing...

If the wave comes....
She almost at the time get good at it..
She surfed verry well...
I only had several chance to surfed well
The others??? It sure only pass by

The night in Marbella
We travel at the coast
walking at the sand together...
seeing the night
seeing each other of course
and drop by at Sea Food Maker at the coast
We bought it and drink fresh young coconut water
Watching the fireworks in the sky
Well not as beautifull as i've seen in Ancol in the new years event
but the most beautifull thing is She is there ....

Travelling along together
trespassing the hotel
trespassing two pools
and tresspassing the SPA residence

we finally sit near the pool
talking together...
lay down in the chair
and looked up to the stars

WOW..............
There were so many stars in the sky
I Cann't stand for the situation..
i ask her to see the stars too
she were excited,
but i think the long walk had made us all tired

So, we only seat on the pool for a moment
just about 1 hour i think
After that, sleepy....
well better be back on the room
and enjoying the night with watching
Continous Movie Channel From Marbella.

Its really awesome...
Marbella sure is a great hotel...
but the Jet Ski Service is really expensive...
Hehehehe somebody promisse me to ply Jet Ski at Parapat
It cheaper there........

Well, i don't really like the beach
it really crowded on the long weekend
and... it's kinda dirty...
the water is a little bit brown....

Someday....
i want to visit Hawai
and surf there.....
but not in Oz....
Hehehehe Siau Min told me there were lots of shark in OZ

OK, enough for today...
wanna go home... it's a great day..
and hope to see u soon ok.

2004-07-20T14:49:00.000+08:00

The one who having b'day today

2004-07-20T14:48:00.000+08:00

Dian B'day in PDC, Brownies Time

Kelapa Gading Foodcourt

2004-07-19T17:22:00.000+08:00

Last Friday,

It began on pursuing time to get the car out...

after arrive at 18:23, just about the time to go dinner, i should pick up the car, and take them to the dorm

its kinda a challenge for me, weather i'm able or not able to do so.

So... i choose to be able to do it.

18:35 when i started the engine to drive the car out of Ebenizer Building near Wisma Bakrie, Setiabudi Kuningan

I took off with 90's Kijang with a very slow speed, my intention is to avoid 3 in 1 time till the 19:00 PM

so, i took the car several times to turn and turn again near diponegoro street and menteng, before i reach the thamrin street.

At the end, i take a deep breath for at least 15 minutes, until the time is pass 19:00

And... it pass by the back of Sarinah, and plaza Jakarta through the Kebon Sirih Street

Well 3 in 1 is avoided, but traffic jam, cann't be avoided.

I stuck in there for at least 30 minutes, then drive through the jatibaru to the slipi

until 20:10... go to the nearest gas station, fill some gaseline and ready to go ^____^

Well, thats just a pre opening of what i really want to tell you.

At the night, a suddenly plan comes out, the car, is there, and the passenger is there

so, we all go to the Kelapa Gading Food court, enjoy some meals in there

we eat different ice cream, like banana split (custom banana in split, and vanilla and chocolate ice cream at the top of it)

Fried Ice Cream... well this is kinda weard isn't it? Yes... as like the names... Fried... it's Ice Cream, with flour outside it, and it fried with

special tehniques so the ice cream won't melt.

Strawberry Milkshake

Red Beans Ice (Manado Style), well it tasted verry sweet indeed, its so sweet just like u tasting a sugar...

and some others rendevouz

oh, and i forget... there is something special, that Yumin order... that was the strawberry ice cream with mineral water...

And it's sooooooooo sour, it's makes u grin and blak out your eyes when ever the strawberry its touching your tounge :p

Well, it's a Good place to taste some ice cream ^_________^

Car Adventure

2004-07-16T15:34:00.000+08:00

Quite long enough for me to ride a car again...

It makes me loose confidence to ride one.

It was 2 years a go, that the last time i drive a car......

Well, it kinda been a nervous experience again...

Gee... why people rush in the time... while i drive a car :p

That's funny, i said the opposite words when i'm in the hurry :))

Well, i should have a little confidence now..

Well, this afternoon, i should change the car to a long car...

to carry lots of passenger... (new part time job as a driver hahahahahaha)

Well, wish me luck to conquer the car within half an hour, so i could take them to their destination.

^_______^

2004-07-14T20:00:00.000+08:00

My Friends at the office

2004-07-14T19:45:00.000+08:00

Ochep in Office

Eagle VS Chicken

2004-07-13T18:08:00.000+08:00

Eagle,

A Big Flying Animal, that could size of 1 meters
and could reach length of 3 meters if he spread his wings.
Eagle often picked up to be a symbol of a country
Because Eagle was a brave animal
Eagle was a great leader
Eagle was a great parents
Eagle were loyal to his spouse

Eagle doesn't leave their child alone
Their guide their children in a big nest one by one
if the father is looking for food, the mother is protecting the eagle child
and otherwards.

Eagle live loyaly to his spouse
Eagle only married once with his spouse and never exchange spouse
not like chicken that often forget
which is his wife yesterday or just then
and marrying some chickens else

We should look for how Eagle lives.
We should learn from Eagles about how he raises his child
How Eagles teaching his child to fly

Eagles was created to be free
to eat whatever he want to eat
Spread the wings every where...

So Eagles won't let their child
not be able to fly
some times they force their kids to fly from the mountain
and drop them down

but they will caught them if the small eagles weren't ready to fly
Small Eagles can fly, because it taught by their parents
Not for automatic

If the eagle raises by a chicken
the eagle will act like a chicken
it wouldn't fly
because chicken doesn't fly

The Question is? Are you an Eagle or a Chicken?
Perhaps, you are an eagle that raises by the chicken
u could fly high
but your neigbourhood tell that you are a chicken
stop dreaming
you cann't fly, you are a chicken

So for the rest of your life you weren't able to fly high
Or, you begin to believe at reality
that you are an eagle
that could fly high
beyond the sky

nothing cann't stop you
The Sky is the limit...

Be an Eagle and fly high
fly very high
Don't let anybody to steal your dream...

God Bless You

Priority In Life

2004-07-13T13:11:00.000+08:00

Today, i'm kinda trying to write more simple
in a font with describe a simpleness and no complexity...
I Hope it will work....

Imagine your life is like an empty jar.
What would you like to fill it with?

Sometimes we put a big rock in it...
until it reach the top level of the jar...
can you fill it with more rocks?
It seems the jar were fully loaded.

It sure full with rocks...
but you still can put some little rocks in it
Now The Big Rocks, and the Small Rocks is in your life,
Do you still have places for another things?

It sure full with big rocks and small ones...
but you still can put some sand in it
Now the sand, small rocks, and big rocks is filled ur life
Do you still have places for another things?

Sure you can,
You can put a water in it...
now it's really full...

Imagine the big rocks is your familly life
the small rocks as your job
the sand as your business
the water as your fun activities

What if???
What if you put the order backwards
What if you put the water before u put the sand
or the big rocks?
I'm sure the water will go out,
and damping the outside of the jar

Summary
Don't put ur priority backwards,
you better find it right,
and work for it right =)

Dream Come True

2004-07-12T18:35:00.000+08:00

Saturday, 10th July 2004.

After meeting one of my important Friend from China, Mrs Yanjing (Mongolia), i was in the hurry to catch graduation ceremony in JHCC.
Step in my bike with my friend behind, and i let him ride my bike go home to close his store.
Curious.......

Is it done already? Am i late for the graduation?

Thanks God i reach there on time, i step in to the second floor (the audience and familly room), could not enter coz i've no invitation card.
Thinking for solution, i fixed my dress, and step in with face straight and confidence.....
It's worked ^________^ the security weren't stoping me in.
And i saw she was standing there with proud invite her father to take rewards as the best graduated students.

Last year, when i was there, i've dreamed about it, i dreamed that it would be proudfull things to do, to invite ur parents to see ur graduation ceremony with special invitation. She was very charming there, with her dress with special emblem that pronounce "Wisudawati terbaik".
I am verry proud of her, yes indeed. I know how hard she has been studied in the last recent year, i often call her as a walking dictionary, because she has read the book and spell it beyond her head ^_______^ The last undergraduate thesis that her worked for it's verry an unbelievable.
She worked it day and night, with no good back up from 2 of her undergraduate thesis friend, even it seems that her had worked it out by her self.

Well her effort were usefull. She made her mom and dad proud with calling them out specially and take rewards of it. But the journey just had been started.
New Job is waiting, New Opportunities are there...
Grab it if it is good ... coz opportunities won't sad if you weren't catch it.

Well, after seeing that, there were something that make my heart beat faster... my hand were a little bit cold.
A man with good suit, and a woman with brown blouse were in the side of her..

Gee.... i hope i'll make a good first impression back there ^_______^

After shaking my hands to both of them, we all come out from the building and starting to taking picture of her and the others outside the ballroom.

One minutes she was beside me, the other minutes she was gone...

One pictures here, another picture 1 meter beside it :p and another picture in the next scene..

Library... doors... and many mores.

After taking picture of her sister and his beloved friend...

She went with the man and woman that makes my heart beat faster. Special Dinner Invitation? (Awesome)

Finally, in the last moment that i told her i have to go back to the meeting and see my friend Janos from Hungary again...

She told me "wouldn't you want to take pictures with me?" (why don't u say it before ^____^ )

Okay... we took some picture there......

After that i say good bye to her and the others, cause i've to meet my friend Janos, that had been waiting for me in Istora.

One line in my list is green now..... its mean that another dream just had been come true.

I hope the others will soon come true too.

My Name is Janos Demiter, How Much Money Do You Make?

2004-07-10T10:55:00.000+08:00

Well, Strange Title for the day isn't it?

Today, i met my friend from Hungary, Janos Demiter.

Hungary, a comunist country and poor. Any way that condition doesn't make my friend Janos to stop growing.

Janos had a deselectia. Deselectia means hard to read and writing. Normal people will assume it a minor or abnormal.

Deselectia people is also had special abilities if they pass over their inability to a better skills like art, music, sport.

My Friend Janos, is a Olympic Athlete for Ice Skater. He had work in Beer Company as a Beer Taster.

The last job that he had before he become an IBO is a Professional Skater in Holiday On Ice.

He told me last night that People often see deselectia as an inability, but if we look for the right perspective, deselectia has

many sample expert in way of other, Einstein is deselectia, Thomas A. Edisson is deselectia, Winston Churchill is deselectia too.

He also told me that, Curiousity is the root for technology. Without it we still cann't flight with the plane right now.

Perhaps we still live in a cave by now =þ

One thing that i remember, to survive u need to change. Dinosaurs won't change, so their vanished.

If Dinosours evolve to a smaller animal he won't vanished.

Janos had a big charisma, he also told me last night that a powerfull music can be created within 20 minutess, wether u have

strong background in music or not with an appropriate software tools (system).

That's mean, what ever your work is, plug it in to the system.

Thank you Janos, u had tought me many thing last night. I Hope we will meet again at ur house in Hungary later on.

I want to met with ur 4 sons later. I'll visit u later with my future wife ok.

Ella Enchanted Character Guide from All-Info About - The Family Screen Scene

2004-07-07T10:30:00.000+08:00

Ella Enchanted Character Guide from All-Info About - The Family Screen Scene

Ella Of Frell

2004-07-06T17:01:00.000+08:00

I Forgot the real movie title of this movie.

But the movie isn't as good in the thriller..

The thriller is really makes fool of me

i kinda interested when i watch spiderman 2 and i saw the thriller of the movie

With a little bit of effort, Visit Slipi, Taman Anggrek, Citraland and at last Semanggi to find Ella Enchanted

At last i found it, but it was midnight show,

Not satisfied, that what can i say about it.

Ella had been gifted by Lucinda the Fairy

A Gift that doesn't wanted by Ella's Mother

And Ella her self later on

She had been gifted a gift of obeydience

She will obey everybody

even if she doesn't want it to happend

and she can do nothing about it

Well she want to be free

She want to make her own decission

She want to say NO

The journey started

On The way of it she found The Prince

A Handsome Charming Prince

A Journey to Find Lucinda The Fairy

To take back the gift

Will she succeded?

Will the stories will end like any other fairy tale?

Happily ever after?

Im aint gonna tell you the end of it...

but the movie isn't as good as i imagine

If u think the opposite just let me know.

1 cool thing from the movie is the magic book :p

Cool, Real 3D GPS System.

Love story between human being, Elf and Ogree, and Fairy and Book

Kinda weard?

What is Your main Dream?

2004-07-03T12:18:00.000+08:00

Ever you think about it,

What is your main Dream?

What is you really want in live?

As a kid, we easly visualized it and describe it clearly.

Although it was kinda funny to us as a grown up to hear a child dream.

When i was a kid, my dream was to life happily with my familly

When some one ask me what wil you do later on,

I was easly answer it (influenced by cartoon movie) as a computer engineer

When i was in Junior High,

I learn that my dream isn't easy

Lot's of my friend told me that... computer is not cheap

it's an expensive stuff

Even my Cousin is forbid me to touch his computer

That really makes me feel angry

incompatible user, inapropriate user, u're just a kid.. don't touch that...

Silly excuse, but still i don't get it

and since then i try my best to be a great computer engineer

I try to prove to them that i can do that too

I'll show them what to do...

(Choleric side pop up)

But Now...

I want to make my familly proud of me

Have a great life

Not for showing off

but to make them proud of me

to show them i can be rely on

to show them i can be trusted

hehehe Spidey sure thing bring inspiration

I want to be a hero to my familly

......................................................................................

speachless.....

thinking....

I'll share u more later ok....

SpiderMan 2 Review

2004-07-03T12:00:00.000+08:00

Well....

I thought movie sequel is gonna be worst from the first one.

But, U Know... Spiderman 2 is Great...

Peter Parker had problem too as a human being.

"When There is a Great Power, Comes a Great Responsiblity too"

Great words uncle Ben...

Spidey have to choose between his love to M.J. and his responsibility as a Hero.

Could He take it?

If you are Spidey, what would you do?

If i am Spidey... i'll surely had a difficult too choose between my beloved heart and great responsibility..

Gee... That's World...

Some times you should pick a different world aren't you ^___^

Cute Thalia

2004-07-01T17:11:00.000+08:00

My Cute and Naughty Nephiew

Bugs Life

2004-07-01T17:05:00.000+08:00

The Picture is taken in Mount Hermont Puncak September 2003.

Beat of The Ocean

2004-07-01T13:57:00.000+08:00

Waves.....

Waves.....

Light....

Light...

There is no Sun near By

There is no Moon near By

The only one left is a couple of small stars...

And Lots of Lights from several boats near by

One Fisherman comes...

With net in his right arm,

Jar in the left arm

Walked slowly,

So the fish won't run away

And Spread The Net

Waves....

Waves...

He Keep Quiet in the waves...

and Then he pull out the net slowly

A Beauty Movements

2-3 Fish catched by

He Put it in the Jar

.: [ True Story ] :.

The last day in your Office?

2004-06-30T17:59:00.000+08:00

What if today is your last day in your office?

What setting do you want in your farewell party?

What kinda face do you want to see in your last day in your office?

Is your last day will be fun? Or it will be sad?

Will you leave them for fun?

Or you leave them by force?

Is some one is happily taking your seat at your office, taking your table, taking your computer?

What is your bos look like when you say ur last word?

Movie Review: Harry Potter (The Prisoner of Azkaban)

2004-06-29T18:49:00.000+08:00

Well, Seeing this movie is like a dejavu to me.
Because i already read the story in the book.

I like when Harry make baloons of his aunts :p
Another cool things in the movie is the Bus...
hehehe who said that an old man could not ride a big bus...
Just watch it and you'll know...

How to face 2 Big Busses in front of you at the speed 100 Km/hours + ???

What is Grim??
Ridikulus...
Expeliarmus..

what kind of spell that Harry learn this time?

What about his nimbus 2000?
There something fishy about the Hypograph?

How is it feel to ride a Hypograph? (hehehe it's feel like a Hypograph Rider in Warcraft III)

^_______^
For All the movie is cool...
although the movie teather that i watched the movie isn't cool :p
It cut the movie several times...

Updating Design

2004-06-29T17:12:00.000+08:00

At last, after trying to understand whats in blog design and a view code, i understand a bit. and change the design looks like.

Well There is still some function that's not working, like comments.
Still figured out how to show it.

Dating With Cecilia Cheung

2004-06-29T12:34:00.000+08:00

Don't be fooled by the picture, it's for my IMK Code

New Blog On the Town

2004-06-29T10:34:00.000+08:00

Hehehehe, sounds like a song artist "New Kid On The Blog"